Difficult situation

[IMCAT]

Evening everyone, my name is Michel and i am 29 years of age, although i still consider myself a teen "to some extent".I am seeking for a friend to speak with, i know for a fact that poeple who really are friends are quite rare.I was simply hoping there was someone here, i am desperate at the edge of a cliff here.Please someone.

Michel

To explain my problem more or less, its pretty much that i been with the same girl for almsot 11 years.I find out shes cheating on me with a married man that is old enough to be my father.Now the situation at hand is that she denies everything.Her life habbits are relatively unbelievable.Somewhat, i knew i was getting into something over my head.However, knowing she gave me HPV after after being raped was another thing.Ive never been the same anymore.

The reason i need to talk to someone is that the situation keeps going on, and i have no idea in which direction to go anymore.Shes a pro liar, however always got an alibi to everything.I feel over paranoied at this point in time and i really need someones advice to discuss this about.

Thank you to anyone who actually take the time to read this and care to reply anything at all that could enlighten me pertaining my problem.

[Koharuchan]

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[IMCAT]

Thank you, sent a pm, im not quite familiar with this system, catching up though. ^_^

[Jennifer]

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[theawesomeman]

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[theawesomeman]

As for your problem that you later posted, first of all do not be parinoied. That can make a good situation bad and a bad situation even worse. If you know for a fact that she has been cheating on you (as in you've actually seen them on a date) I would either make her stop or end the relationship now. If I were you the next time she says she is going somewhere (something that would take a large amount of time to do) secretly follow her two or three times to see if she is being honest about everything. If she is a "pro liar" as you call it, thenwhen you sit down to talk to her you should always have a comeback to one of her lies even if it takes 2 or 3 minutes to come up with each one.

[Nicole!]

Honestly, if she is going to lie to you and cheat on you when you've spent 11 years together, then it doesn't sound like she is taking this relationship as seriously as she should. The decision is up to you, but if I were in your shoes I would probably end it there. I don't tolerate cheating at all.