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Rant and What should I do? - December 22nd 2011, 07:48 AM

Alright so right now my life is really up and down. There are good parts that are like me going to finish my two year tech school here in March, and the fact that I am going back to college away from my parents finally. I know I am still going away at a 20 year old. Not right out of high school did I want to go to a four year college. So I chose to go to the two year tech school. Anyway after I graduate here in March I am going back to college in the fall.
So here is where the story begins. If you have seen or read any of the other posts that I have done over the time, you know that I was with the girl that I loved for three months. Now yes I do miss her a lot. I did get a girlfriend now and finally. The problem is that she is 4 years younger than me; and it is a long distance relationship. I can't really talk to her at the moment because I am in the middle of finals. She is the girl that I have wanted to be with for a long time. Well, I wanted to be with my ex and I still have feelings for her. I can't directly say that to my new girlfriend. She knows that I have been in a really big relationship and that I am not going to get over it any time soon. So my ex moved up 4 hours away to go to college. I really did miss her and when I was looking for colleges I went up to her school to look at her college and I really liked it there. Right now I plan on going to school in Texas and that is over 1000 miles away from my ex. I can't tell her that I still like her, and she has put me in the friend zone. I am in the friend zone with her. Just whenever I finally get over it and relax, I see that on her Facebook that she went on a date and it was great. Then I get all these feelings that come back to me and I don't know what to do. If I leave my current girlfriend I don't know if I would really feel any different because being with her my life hasn't changed. I can't see her for another four years and I don't know how I am going to get through college if I am still with her. Because what if I meet someone in college? I just don't know what to do right now.


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Re: Rant and What should I do? - December 22nd 2011, 05:43 PM

I know how hard long distance relationships can be, especially if you can't see them all the time.
I saw you said your girlfriend is 4 years younger than you. This is where it does get tough. I'm assuming she's just starting out high school and you're going away to college. These are two pretty big life changes for some people. She's just starting to mature and you're carrying on with your life so you can get a great career and whatnot. If you feel like you're going to meet someone in college and that you should break it off with your current girlfriend - it might be a good idea. Since she could be harboring these same feelings about high school.

Don't worry about your ex girlfriend. Maybe it would be a good idea to delete her from your friends list? That way you won't have to see when she went on a date and how fun it was, etc. It might seem somewhat juvenile deleting her off of facebook but the less you're reminded about her the easier it will be to forget.



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Re: Rant and What should I do? - December 23rd 2011, 04:47 AM

I think you ought to move on and cut off all communication to your friend. Yes, I do realize it will be hard, but the fact of the matter is shes controlling your life. If it gets so bad that you miss her so much and you find it hard to date others, and you get a rush of adrenaline when you read her posts, and you aren't happy with being just friends, then I think it is time to move on or you wont be able to get over the past relationship. Your ex is just that, and EX. You need to find someone who will love you back like the current girlfriend you have; forget about the past. Focus on who you have instead of who you don't.

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