Non-PG13 (Strong Language): can you be addicted to heart break?

[*Learningtobreathe*]

Ok, I don't know if this belongs here. But I think I am addicted to sucky relationships. I think I look for relationships that are eventually going to fail. I'm afraid of getting into a lasting relationship and fucking it up. I really like this guy but it's too perfect. we don't fight, we don't argue, we just talk. It makes me mad. I want a fight, i want the pain of a heartbreak. Is it wrong to want to fight?

[Yorehl]

Its not really wrong, but its unhealthy. The bad relationship part, that it. Fights are a normal part of relationships and I would also be suspicious of one without the occasional scuffle. The "addiction" however, isn't good at all. All I can say is to try to get out of your comfort zone and try to get guys who are good for you. If you like this guy, ignore your urge to run away. Instead, embrace him. I wish you the best.

[Childish Giggle]

Hey there!
I have met loads of people who feel that way. Its perfectly fine. But why do you feel that way? Is it because you are afraid that the normal relationship will eventually be destroyed and tend to look for a relationship that doesn't have a future from the start so that it can't take you unaware with the hurt? Is it your way of maybe looking out for yourself? Because maybe you are afraid to get hurt without knowing it.
As the above poster said it is unhealthy. But try to get to the bottom of it. Try to understand why you feel that way. IS it because you are insecure? Knowing why you feel that way will help you in tackling the feeling.

[Peppermint Tea.♥]

I've moved this thread to relationships and dating because I think it will get better replies there.

Spending a lot of time on bad relationships can be very unhealthy and it can make you feel bad about yourself. It might be a good idea to take time out from relationships, spend some time single and do things for yourself for a bit. The right person will come along eventually.

[Aletheia*]

I definitely agree with the above ^

Sure, fighting are normal, sometimes healthy parts of a relationship. Nothing can be perfect all the time (or at all, for that matter) but the simple fact that you seek out these crappy relationships JUST to fight with them is the scary, and unhealthy aspect. I think it's time you took a break from dating. Learn to be yourself, and do things for yourself for once. The right guy will come along, the right guy that will help you through this.

[Chris.]

I agree with the others - fighting is healthy and is suppost to be apart of your relationships. But I do find that you wanting to fight with him is what is going to cause some problems - likes I said, you will get in fights, but just because you haven't doesn't mean the relationship is bad, or that you need to pick a fight. If you really like this guy than you should be happy that nothing of the fighting sort has happen within the relationship - but if you find yourself trying to pick fights with him, then I think its time to sit down and reevaluate this relationship and the aspects involved.



Best wishes,
Chris

[*Learningtobreathe*]

thank you. it just seems too perfect. i'm trying to keep myself from fighting with him but sometimes he's too easy to please. he always finds the good in everything i do or say. i love him. he's worth it. but i'm scared of losing him.