i can't let go but, i'm sick of crying.

[BrokenCountry]

he's so wrong for me but, i can't help but want him.
he's my sisters best friend and we were messing around.
we stopped and im completely heart broken, i fell head over heels for him.
im trying to get over him but all my sister does is talk about him.
our old dinner conversation this evening was about him and his ex getting back together.
i did everything i could not to start crying my eyes out.
he's always at my house and ive been trying to avoid him but then i get into trouble for not saying hello to him.
my family doesn't know that there was something going on between us because that wouldn't go over very well and he doesn't want to lose my family.
i need to get over him but i don't know how i can. i'm sick of crying over him, i'm sick of wanting him so bad.
help!

[xxpaigiexx]

Hi there,

I know this is not going to be easy, but you're going to have to at least try to act as though there is nothing up with you guys, because at the end of the day, no one knew anything was going on and he is your sisters friend. Your sister doesn't know what went on so you can't blame her for speaking about him. Your sister probably won't be happy if you tell her... so mentioning may not be a good idea.

I think this is why things like 'friends with benefits' or 'buddies' are not a good idea because someone will always get hurt. It is so easy to fall in love with someone you never expected to/wanted to.

I think the best thing you can do is go and spend time with friends and try to get him out of your head. It's not going to be easy, but I promise in time things will get easier.

Best of luck,
Paige

[BrokenCountry]

i wish i could talk to my sister about it because she's basically my best friend and i go to her about everything.
now that im really hurting i cant go to her and its killing me.
her and my brother in law would completely hate him and be so upset and disappointed in me.
friends with benefits is not gonna happen again after this.
i never expected to fall in love with him.
i never thought he was my type he was just someone to have fun with.
i guess i was wrong all along.
thanks for your words.
its nice and helpful getting input from people that don't know either of us because they are fresh on the situation.

[Chris.]

We never go into the situation thinking we will fall for them, or we will get hurt - but we usually always end up (atleast someone in the friendship will). As Paige said, it will be hard, but the only thing you can really do is try to do your own thing - hang out with friends, or maybe find someone else who will like you and will commit to a relationship. Remember I know it may seem like hes the only guy in the world right now, but hes not. There about 2-3 billion more. So, even though this didn't turn out the way you wanted it to (like most things in life wont), but you have to smile (which is hard) and learn from the experience and move on. It wont be easy, but as Paige said, it will get easier.



Best wishes,
Chris