pleaseee talkk to me :(

[sweetman16]

ok so my girlfriend and me broke up like dec 23. then over christmas break she wanted to get back with me and all this shit. but for some reason i lost complete feeling for any person. Like i just didn't want to get back together with her after she broke up with me for a dumb reason, and because of a few fights we got into. So i forced myself to get over her. And then last tuesday, i talked to her. And it was 11. I told myself i'd be in bed in a second. Next thing you know it's 2 am and we're still talking. We were talking about fixing things, and then all of the sudden i felt like i really really liked her again. it just came over me how much i missed everything we had . She said how if i had a thing with another girl she would ball her eyes out. and a some other things that got to me. And i completely just started saying how i felt about her and all this, and she told me she's inlove with me and how she grew up not being able to use the word love, not even to her family. and how she meant it everytime she said it to me, and how i was the first she actually did. And how i brought out the best in her and she wished things were better. So pretty much i just told her how i felt about her and things were really good. But then like yesterday. My friend paris told her i fucking hate her, and shes a bitch. Which wasn't true. I called her a bitch a week ago , because that's what she is alot of the time. Even she admits it, her bestfriends everyone. So anyways she told her to hook up with braiden ( one of my best friends) . real sketchy mofo, but we're still tight haha. so out of all people it's him. But yeah so i was pissed when i heard this today from paris ofcourse how she was with him and holding hands and shit. nothing to big, so was kindof rattled. was talking to some people in my math class, and my friends bitched her out already for it surprisingly. and they're all bestfriends with her to so was surprised they took my side lmfao.. but anyways one of her other friends said that , when she was talking to her she said she didn't like me and didn't mean it when she said all that stuff. so im even more rattled. so we were supposed to hangout, but ofcourse she made plans with my friend korie. So i hungout with them both, we talked. and she was just not knowing what to say, and kept saying idk to liking me and never denied liking braiden. So im pissed off at this point but shes not doing anything to even like change my mind. and tn my buddy rob talked to her and said wtf happend, and shit. so she said she just wants to be friends now and just talk to me and stuff. and said if she wasn't a bitch maybe we could work things out. Which doesn't make sense? but anyways. Since tuesday, my outlook on her completely changed. I liked her alot again, completely put all the fights, and all my bad thoughts on her away. never said anything bad, even when she was chirping me and i heard all this stuff. So when i heard this i was so shocked, because everyone said she talked about me 24/7 and couldn't get over me and loved me. And then she pretty much wants to be friends all of the sudden. And my friend braiden fucked me over. but hes a fuckup crackhead anyways. But yeah, i even stopped smoking weed. like i smoked for a year, everyday and i just said eff it i'd rather have her. which is kindof hard to do, i know it's sad but true. But anyways please talk me through it, i don't know waht to do . I just need a friend to talk to about this and make me feel better i guess, but like idkk. im been just punching my wall and listening to mumford and sons for the passed few hours lol.

i know it's alot but pleaseee

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by sweetman16

i know it's alot but pleaseee

Hey Charles, I'm Shawn and I'll be glad to give you my two cents on your situation. First, it sure sounds a lot of "he said, she said" drama has creeped into your relationship with this girl. Forgive me if I can't remember all the names, but there are a lot of players here.

In my opinion, the first thing you need to do is sit down and figure out how you really feel about this girl, WITHOUT ALL THE STUFF YOU "HEARD" SHE DID OR SAID ABOUT YOU. If you still think there's some feelings for her to be more than friends, and you still think it's worth the shot, then you need to get her alone, just the two of you and talk this shit out. You were together long enough to both have something invested here, so clear the air.

Again, in my opinion, your "so called" best friend, the one that stepped to her when you two first got shakey, is a "buster" and not even close to what rates as a friend in my little world.

I got more to say, but don't want this to get too long. You can VM or PM me, or we can talk right here. I'm grounded and really don't have much else to do right now.

I'm re-reading your post to make sure I got the facts straight.

[stfu.cuppycake]

Easy, forget about her, move on & find a better best friend. Oh & date her best female friend (y).

[sweetman16]

yees! exactly what she said the night we talked. That's exactly why i put everything behind me that i heard about her, thought about her and all that stuff. I knew that what was holding me back from being the guy i was before all this happend. I admited to her today too. I said i know, i've been a douchebag, i've fuckedup too, i've said stuff you're not the only one, but i'm sorry . but get over what's happend and move on, because it's just holding us back. But then i also told her how i put it behind me and don't think of her in any negative ways anymore because it just puts things down. And yes i still like her alot, but after everythings that happend moving on sounds like the best, but the hardest thing to do :\ espicially at my school, there's no girls i like. The reason i liked her because she was new, and i honestly had a crush on her the first day i saw her. And thought to myself that we'd be dating one day. But every other girl i'm just good friends with, and i keep them in the friendzone. Don't really want them at all. And then other girls just aren't my type, mostly the more preppy girls with really high grades that are quiet and stuff lool. but yess you're right, it was alot of drama and dumb shit people we're starting between us both, and we we're just listening and deep down it was worsening the relationship because it was hard to hear all this stuff and keep just liking eachother and being happy.

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by stfu.cuppycake

Easy, forget about her, move on & find a better best friend. Oh & date her best female friend (y).

Wow! Really!!

[sweetman16]

but i still am completely shocked on how fast she moved on saying all this stuff. Like it was pretty deep, and things you say to someone you're inlove with. She clearly just didn't mean them which hurts alot because it brought out the good part of me, and i told her exactly how i feel about her, which i meant. :\ and it was weird because she was trying to get me back for 2 weeks.. then she just moved on when i came back

[stfu.cuppycake]

Well you can't make her like you right ? & she's not worth it. You can do so much better, think it through; She wouldn't do that to you if she actually loved you. All I can say.

[sweetman16]

hahah well her best friends are all girls i'm bestfriends with that i've known since i was like 12. and 1 is a lesbian, and the others have boyfriends so that completely takes that out of the question. But, i'm planning on wheeling some other girl just to get with her, because she said she would ball if i had a thing with a girl. So hopefully works out (Y). And the kid wasn't my best friend. Was just one of my closer friends. Like we used to chill alot in the summer then shit went down and people we're jumping him and yeah.. but then we got decent again and we still chill like once a week :P

[Shawn K.]

Dude, I've put a link to my first post here last week. It was girl drama... REAL GIRL DRAMA, that brought me here. My point is at this point in our lives, girls should never be so important that we lose touch with who we are as men. I mean, I don't think "retaliating" against this girl my throwing some other girl in her face is a wise move. It sounds like you have a pretty tight circle of friends (damn enough of them are all up in your business, lol) so you could come out looking bad in some people's eyes. Won't a lot of them know what the real deal is? IMO it also gives this girl, and what she did, too much power/influence. It shows how much this has hurt you. Fuck that!!!

http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f6-se...-question-all/

Originally Posted by stfu.cuppycake

Well you can't make her like you right ? & she's not worth it. You can do so much better, think it through; She wouldn't do that to you if she actually loved you. All I can say.

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Sorry about my earlier reply. You actually make a very good point.

[sweetman16]

But yeah anyway's , tomorrow just gunna take the day off besides math . Then gettin hammed later on hahaha. so should get my mind off shit! but yeah anyways probably going to wheel this girl anyway's, just too see how things go. We used to have a thing, but she was like really fuckin square, but things change so

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by sweetman16

yeah bro i'm pre tight with alot of people, so everyone knows what's up.
But only like my ex and her " new friend.." fucked up. Even my ex's best friend called her a bitch and stuck up with me, and helped out alot. So i was pretty happy about that. Tomorrow i said fuckk it i'm skipping everything but math cause that's my only serious class i like to keep i high mark in.. my classes are cooking cooking math fitness, hard i know but guidance counciler did that not me.. anyways then drinking later on. so should get my mind off shit . but well i'm still going to wheel this girl, i used to have a thing with her but she was pretty square. but maybe things changed? so either way i'll see how that goes haha. thanks for the help!

Cool bro... but before you split, school a brother as to what "wheel this girl" means out your way. I know it's another country and shit, but I'd like to know.

And one last point. You liked this girl at at least two points in this whole drama. Make sure you want to completly burn that bridge and see no possibility of your relationship starting up again later on. A messy game of "I'll show you" can burn a bridge real quick. I'm just sayin.

All the best, bro...drop a line sometime...lemme know how it goes. Like I said, I ain't goin anywhere for quite awhile. Oh, and yeah.... hell of a schedule dude

[sweetman16]

haha well it's like a hockey term in canada. guys play hockey and just wheel girls in there downtime. it means trying to get with a girl pre much. or just trying to date her even . most of the time it's leading them on that you like them to get shit, which is pretty much 90% of guys in my town. but then it's used for good sometimes too hahaha, like when i first started wheeling my old girlfriend, it was at a party and thats how it started.

and i don't know wtf happend. i must be overtired or something, because i read my post before and it looked like it was random as fuck, so i edited it haha!

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by sweetman16

and i don't know wtf happend. i must be overtired or something, because i read my post before and it looked like it was random as fuck, so i edited it haha!

No worries bro, I knew what you meant. Thanks for the "wheel" definition.

And, one last "preachy" thing. (Just remember I'm a firm believer in the saying, "A real friend stabs you in the front.")

Going out and getting "hammered" to "get your mind off of shit" is a really bad idea IMO, especially if it's "relationship" shit. Again, I'm just sayin.

Laters

[sweetman16]

yeah i know it's a really bad way to get through things. but haven't drinkin in a while so just kindof felt like it anyway's. In my town it's about all kids do.
Fuck shit up
smoke weed
get drunk
it's a sad place i know lmfao!

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by sweetman16

yeah i know it's a really bad way to get through things. but haven't drinkin in a while so just kindof felt like it anyway's. In my town it's about all kids do.
Fuck shit up
smoke weed
get drunk
it's a sad place i know lmfao!

Just be safe bro...

[stfu.cuppycake]

Haha, hope you thought about it through. It's part of life, just move on & forget about her because someday, you'll find someone better & you'll realise why it never worked out with her. Inbox me if you need any advices in the future x.

[FillingWithHope]

I am sorry this happened. But just try to forget her, and move on with your life you deserve much better!