Triggering: HE LEFT ME FOR HER!!

[tracey1212]

I have been with this boy for almost a year, we have been intimate several times, but yestarday he txt me and told me that he wanted to have a break. I thought that he would be the one. I am almost 21 years old, have been through sooo much and i just think that i had found that perfect one. guess not. He said that it wasnt something that i did or said, and he told me that he may have found the perfect girl, who he really likes. Guess what?? the girl he met used to be my friend, and we arnt anymore because she found it funny to laugh at me because i wanted to end my life. i dropped her and she found a way to revenge me. thats why i wanted to end it all last night.. how can i go on without him??? I have no one, and i dont find it funny that i am not worthy of loving, or being intamite, with anyone else. I dont know what to do anymore, i feel like everyone is laughing at me, and getting their pleasure from my pain...

i think i may just go end it all...finally and for real this time....no one knows what it feels like to be this hurt...

[Aletheia*]

How can you assume nobody has felt your kind of pain before? I've been dumped, SEVERAL times, since I started dating in middle school. It's not a fun experience, but it's a learning experience. An ended relationship doesn't mean you should end your life, and it also doesn't mean that you aren't worthy of someones love, and worthy of being intimate with someone else. This guy sounds confused, and doesn't know what or who he wants. We can't really blame someone for that. It's normal to feel confused about things like this. However, him leaving you for another girl just shows you that he wasn't the perfect guy for you, and now you CAN find that perfect guy now that he's out of the picture. He wasn't worth YOUR time and effort. Just work on moving on, and finding a guy who loves you for you.

[Nicole!]

Lots of people have felt that hurt. We all succumb to suffering at some point.
I know its really hard to deal with, but if he is willing to leave you after a year for some other girl, then he doesn't really love you. Especially if he is saying your ex best friend is 'the one' when he hasn't even dated her yet. Its best to just end things with him, because he doesn't seem to appreciate you as he should. Your ex best friend may not even be doing this for revenge, she may just genuinely like him.
In essence, they both aren't worth your time, so just drop them and cut off contact to make it easier to get over them.
I'm really sorry that this happened to you though, feel free to PM me if you need to vent.

[how.we.operate.]

I've experienced something similar as well--long story short is I left my ex due to a break down, he gave me a week to pull myself together, but he found another girl and refused to talk to me after that.
Honestly, suicide isn't a good answer...you have a lot going for you and you are going to let one guy ruin this?
You have a life ahead of you, why not see who else is out there? I know right now you must be truly hurt, but you do need to realize that a lot of people go through this as well...the hurt of a break up, the pain of feeling like you have no one, the suicidal thoughts, etc. Unfortunately...this happens a lot.
Don't give up now! Honestly, there are much better guys out there for you than him...
Also, I agree with the other posts...if he is leaving you for another girl, then there wasn't true love. I know it bites and stings, but if someone is willing to do something like that, they AREN'T worth it.

You ex friend...it doesn't really look like she is doing this for revenge...

Sorry to say this, but sh*t happens. You need to realize this is just one step in life that you need to get past. In a few weeks, you will look back at this and you will think why didn't you move on sooner? I did just that when I had my drama. Go enjoy life instead of drowning in the misery! Take a step forward.