Can a girl make herself seem desperate if she calls/text a guy first?

[plzhelp12]

have you ever felt like you have waited enough because you really would like for things to get better before the worse comes in with you and your ex would you call him or text him if you really missed him but at the same time doesn't want yourself to seem desparate? are there any ways to not make yourself seem desparate?

[SamMarie]

I would first delete his number. I mean, having his number is just as tempting as it is. You shouldn't be able to call him or text him. Having ANY communication available to contact him will only increase the temptation. If you have any items reminding you of your ex, that would be the next step. You're going to feel desperate because you're not used to the fact that he is now an ex. Let's look at it this way though... it is probably better you didn't see or talk to him because it would only hurt you more. The best thing to do is distract yourself and maybe talk to new people. You have your friends to comfort you, but try to minimize the subject so you have enough time to heal and think about other things. I wish the best luck to you. Just don't ever think you're alone ! There is always someone else to love and you never know... they may be looking for you too. Good luck!

[plzhelp12]

i waasnt talking about forgettin him

[PSY]

I think what SamMarie was assuming is that your ex isn't interested in getting back together with you... so why try to get back together when him, when it's one-sided? I mean, if he wanted to get back together with you, he'd welcome your phone calls/text messages. You wouldn't have to worry about coming across as "desperate," because he would be just as "desperate" to hear from you! That doesn't seem to be the case, though... so for now, it may be best to move on. Give yourself some time to heal after the break-up. With time, you two may be able to become friends again - but that's not going to happen immediately after a break-up. At least, not for most couples.

[plzhelp12]

nooo im not talking about that either thats ok you guys

plz noone else dont respond to this because it is misleaded thank you

[PSY]

I'm sorry that we're not understanding your situation. If you'd like, you can edit your first post, or clarify things for us on this thread, or ask to have this thread closed so you can create a new one that is more clear. =) I'd really like to help you, but obviously, what I'm saying isn't very helpful to you!

[Nicole!]

I'm not sure if this is answering your initial question, but if you don't want to seem desperate then just send a text and give your ex time to respond. Texting is a bit more subtle than calling is.