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Does it sound like it's over? - February 17th 2012, 07:44 PM

Met a guy 3 months ago and been seeing him since the start. Mostly everything has been good. I'm not an 'open' person so haven't ever really told him how much I like him (which is a lot). He's been saying recently about how I don't really say much (I think he means anything of importance... like being open about things I guess) so for valentines day, I sent him a wooden postcard in the post and wrote a link on it to a video of myself with a flip chart expressing some feelings for him and that I know for us to work maybe I need to be more open with him.

Maybe I am delusional and mental, but I honestly thought this was a nice and thoughtful thing to do, maybe even romantic in a sense?

It didn't get to him until Wednesday and he never mentioned it. I know he has watched it though as it's a password protected video and has a watch count on each day. That evening when he would have only just seen it we were both online but not talking a great deal then things got a little out of hand at home for me with my parents which I then went and asked him in my over emotional moment if he is with me just for the sex. I'm pretty sure he was phased by this, and I went out not long after as didn't want to be at home.

He spoke to me first online yesterday but only about trivial things like how was my day, how am I, what have I been doing...

And tonight so far I said hello, asked how he is then asked is there still a 'we'? To which he asked what do I mean. So I said I was going to ask if we are okay, told him I'm sure I've scared him off and just that I want to know what's going on, even if it's over.

He hasn't answered at all and it's been over half an hour I don't think I need to say more.

Everything had been fine between us until he got my post card/saw the video/I went a bit mental at him. I've not told him I love him or anything like that.

Is there a possibility he just needs a bit more time to take everything in? Or does it sound like it's over?
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Re: Does it sound like it's over? - February 17th 2012, 07:51 PM

I wouldn't sit there and overreact. As girls we have a tendency to over-think things & freak out over nothing. I know he didn't respond to you as quickly as you wanted, but maybe he just got super busy & lost track of the conversation. Or, maybe he does need time to think about everything & let what you said sink in. You said normally you're not that open, so he's become used to this. Then you did the video for him, and it most likely caught him off guard. I'd give it a few days and then speak to him about it. Don't constantly nag him about it, because then you'll become annoying & needy, and he won't like it. Just hang in there for a couple more days & ask about it again. By that time you should get the answer you're looking for, hopefully it won't be a bad one, though.


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Re: Does it sound like it's over? - February 18th 2012, 10:08 PM

You just gotta talk to him about it. Tell him that you are sorry for asking him that, and that you were just in an unstable part of mind...Also, explain to him that you have deep feelings for him and that you aren't very good at expressing them, but you were just trying to express it in the way you could
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Re: Does it sound like it's over? - February 19th 2012, 07:42 PM

Okay well here's an update, although it's not much of one

He's still not contacted me in any way, and I haven't contacted him at all either. We have both been online since I last spoke to him on Friday evening. Usually we talk everyday online. Usually he will text on weekends during the day too but had nothing this weekend.

I REALLY don't want to speak to him first as I have no idea how he feels about me now. And incase I've scared him, I don't want to push him further away. I feel like I've said enough to him and done enough I mean with the valentine postcard sent to his house, the video expressing some things which are hard for me to say (I did mention in there about this being a first step towards being more open with him too) and also just asking him out right if we are over after a few days of him not mentioning the video.

Now writing that and thinking about what I have done, bluntly, I sound f**king mental

What I just want opinions on now, is how long do you think I should wait before I regard the relationship as OVER if he still doesn't contact me?
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