I'm In Love With My Bestfriend.

[Mirabella]

Well, he's my best guy friend. I've liked him for years and he still doesn't know, I'm crazy about him and I desperately need some advice. I think about him all the time. Its so hard for me to tell him because I've been keeping this secret from him for 3 years. I want to tell him badly. I really like him.
Please give me some advice and share your stories too.

[SM13]

Hey there. I've been in this same situation before. we ended up going out for about a year then had a nasty breakup and don't talk really. I would suggest you thinking carefully about how it Woukd affect y'alls friendship and if it is worth the chance of losing him after a breakup. If you think it is then I'd try to talk to him about it unless he has a gf already. If you ever need anything you can PM ms anytime! Good luck and let me know if I can be of any other help.
~SM~

[ForgetMeNot9]

You could definitely tell him how you feel about him. There's always the chance though that he might not have the same feelings about you. Do you think that could possibly make it awkward between the two of you? And if you did end up dating, what if you broke up? Would it hurt you if you couldn't stay friends for whatever reason? These are all just things you should probably think through before making the decision to tell him or not. If you decide to tell him, then that's great and I wish you all the best Take care!

[αγάπη]

If you do decide to tell him, I think it would probably be a good idea to prepare yourself for the worst. You don't want to be caught off guard and have everything made worse. At least prepare yourself for him saying he doesn't feel the same way.
Ask yourself if you are willing to risk your friendship for a possible relationship. Hopefully, if you're good friends, if it doesn't go anywhere, you could still stay friends. It's a tricky situation for sure. Good luck, my inbox is always open if you want to talk.

[DanceCommander]

Well, if you are going to share your feelings, realize you are doing it for YOU and not necessarily for the answer he gives. I mean, yes, it would be awesome and wonderful for you if he said yes. But, he might not. So don't tell him because you must know what he thinks and are hanging on his every word, do it because you feel comfortable and ready to tell him.

Also, you may not get a yes. So be prepared for whatever answer you might get, and the possibility the friendship could change or, in worst case scenario, end. Not to be a Debbie Downer, but it is possible.

So be careful about how you want to do this. I'm not saying obsess over the perfect moment, because that almost never works as planned (nothing in relationships is perfect, anyway), but be relaxed and open about it. Try not to build tons of tension (at least not enough to overwhelm you), but try and go for it when you are relaxed and alone together. Remember, he is still your best friend. Yes, you are telling him you like him and it may not end as you hope, but it's much more possible you will get a straight-forward and compassionate answer from him.

I say take this chance if you feel ready to. You know, people try to hide feelings for best friends, but it usually comes out some way or another. Better if you aren't plastered at a party and scream it out before falling down the stairs.

So, just be yourself (I cannot stress that enough) and be confident. You are an amazing person and you're ready to open up. Whatever happens, it doesn't make or break you. You will always be wonderful as you are.

So go tell him! And good luck.

[Mirabella]

Thank you for the advice. I never even thought to consider if I was really ready to tell him. I've never met a guy like him. He's a complete original, to the point of being insane. That's why I like him, he's crazy, like me. I don't think I'm going to tell him yet- I'm not ready to face the music. Thanks so much.
-Mira

[iloveyouuu]

I've been in a situation like this before. You just need to tell him straight up how you're feeling. That's the best way to go about things.

[AlexQuinn]

I hate to say this, but you will probably regret it if you tell him. I told my best girl friend, and it didn't work. At all. For a lot of reasons. Think carefully about it before you tell him, because there might be a world of heartbreak, anger, hurt and depression waiting for you. I know there was for me. But you know what, if I had the chance to do it all over again, knowing what I know now, I'd still have told her.

[Mirabella]

I think that I might tell him. I'll see him this Friday so, maybe it will happen. Probably not. I feel like have haven't described the situation well enough so if you go to my blog, there will be a link to my real blog. There you can read the month by month play of all this (I've only been writing for a few months so it's not 3 years worth of reading). you have to start at the very bottom of the page and work your way up, but you'll get it.

[AlexQuinn]

Quite honestly, I need not read your blog to know exactly how you feel. I've lived it. I suffered through it. I could go through all the various things that happened, but I don't really want to. Suffice it to say, you'll feel incredibly happy when you tell him. If it goes sour, it'll be the worst feeling you've ever had. And 3 months later, you'd still go back and tell him all over again. I can't help you do it, but I can tell you that it's a good thing if you do, despite the horribly bad things that might indeed happen.

[trancy211]

Originally Posted by iloveyouuu

I've been in a situation like this before. You just need to tell him straight up how you're feeling. That's the best way to go about things.

Yup, that's sure to be the best way.