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My boyfriend goes out too much - March 3rd 2012, 03:07 PM

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so basically i kind of need replies really fast as i am currently writing a message to my boyfriend as we speak, but i need help with it.

my boyfriend goes out heaps, all the time. and he has a reputation for cheating, and there have been rumors so every time he goes out i get worried. he doesn't really think about me, how i feel. for example, when he's at my house, he makes plans to go out after he's done there, and that really hurts me. i'm not the kind of person who likes going out, even though i have done it for him but not enjoyed myself.
today, i was also really sad, but he put going out before making sure i was okay and asking me what was wrong.

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Re: My boyfriend goes out too much - March 3rd 2012, 04:24 PM

The best thing to do is to just be honest with him and say exactly what you told us.
However, it wouldn't be fair to tell him that you don't like him going out because he's probably spending time with friends. Has he given you a reason to not trust him? If not, then it isn't necessarily fair to be suspicious of him cheating or doing things he shouldn't when he's out.

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Re: My boyfriend goes out too much - March 3rd 2012, 05:13 PM

I agree with being honest about your feelings to him, but I wouldn't write it out. I would talk to him face to face to show sincerity of your feelings. Now when you mean go out, just go out with friends or is there more to it? Sounds like you two need to sit down and communicate with each other because it seems like he just doesn't even care about you in general and that's a bad sign as it is. If a guy cares more about himself than you, he's not at the same level as you. Talking to him about it can lead to 2 things. 1) He can change to your liking. 2) He'll ignore you and continue to go out. If he's not an ass he'll do the first one. I would honestly suggest going out with him too, but going out with him for both of you to enjoy. Trust your instincts. Good luck !

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Re: My boyfriend goes out too much - March 3rd 2012, 10:53 PM

Well give it time. It could be a big problem or nothing at all. To me something is not right.....honestly i used to have that same reputation but did not do it in that manor. All it takes is one person to change that. If the other is cheating maybe it is a sign by some one or something that you two are not right for each other and your special someone is still roaming around looking for, well YOU! I hope this helps at least a little bit!

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Re: My boyfriend goes out too much - March 5th 2012, 02:27 PM

Be honest with him. If his going out every night bothers you, you need to tell him your feelings. We all like to go out every once in a while, and honestly, if this is something he wants to do, you might not be able to stop him but at least you can tell him how you feel. If he isn't considering your feelings, maybe it's time to reconsider your relationship with him. He shouldn't be putting your feelings on the back burner. You should come before his wanting to go out, and if he's not doing that, he doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend to me.

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