HELP!! I CAN'T STOP IGNORING HIM! :o

[Skysfallingg]

So the thing is I like this guy, I see him every morning but i never say anything to him, I just walk past or look away. I dont mean to do it but i get so nervous and shy around him im too scared to talk. He's so sweet and cute im afraid someone's going to get him before i do! What should I do?

Side note: He kind of has the rep of being a "thug" or "bad boy" but he's honestly a sweet guy. He just follows his friends too much sometimes.

[Raining Glitter]

I have the exact same problem hun!

Basically what you need to do is try forcing yourself to at least acknowledge him. I know it can be hard, but it is the only way to do it. There are tricks, though, that you can do so you can not get as nervous.

If you have a problem with eye contact, stare at his nose and give him a smile or when talking to him. The awesome thing about looking at people's noses is that it looks like you are looking into their eyes when you actually not! So it makes life easier if you get nervous since you can focus on his nose and what you want to say/doing instead of having his eyes gazing back.

Another thing to try is to think of a song that could distract yourself half-heartedly. Every time I'm nervous about doing something, I get a song or something stuck in my head so I focus on the song than what I'm actually doing. By the time I realize what I'm doing/saying, it's at the point of no return and I'm forced to continue speaking/waving/ect.

I hope everything works out for you, hun! Don't do what I did, waited around to the point where I scarred the guy off because I was too shy to respond. He sounds like a really nice guy and you sound like a really nice girl. I know you have it in you! Just keep pushing yourself and who knows, he might end up your boyfriend, or at least a good friend. Good luck! Pm me anytime if you want to talk!

[Silhouette]

Is the only time you see him when you pass by in the hallway?
What I would do is start off just saying hello when you pass by. Then maybe try and go for a casual conversation, asking a question is excellent in situations such as this. If you have FaceBook or anything like that, its a good place to start random conversations. Then you don't have to worry about keeping it brief because the bell might ring
It can take awhile for a friendship to build, but that needs to come first before you try for a relationship.

[Chris.]

Communication is key! But start small. As Nicole said, just start off by saying 'hi' and giving a wave. Then the more you see him, add to to conversation: "Hi, whats up?!" Eventually, if he responds in a positive way, he will answer back - and your conversations will slowly build. Maybe even add him on facebook? Or see if he has a class that you take. If so, then maybe send him a message on facebook (or any other site) and tell him your forgot your homework page, and ask him for it! Try to stay simple - and understand it will take time!


Best wishes,
Chris

[MissHoran]

I like what Chris said. Girl, when you start talking to him though, I promise it'll be worth it. Keep reminding yourself of that and maybe you'll build up some confidence

[Flavalicious]

Even though it might feel awkward for you to make the move, gather that confidence and start a conversation with him. Nicole and Chris gave good advice here that you should start from a small one and then progressing to a much longer one.

Whenever you feel like you don't have that courage, just have that thought always in your mind -- someone is going to get him if you don't do anything. Good luck!

[Skysfallingg]

Thank you all sooo much for your help, it actually gave me confidence i saw him this morning (he wasn't there yesterday) but he was with one of my friends. I said hi to them both, and he said it back!!! I guess this means he's open to being friends, maybe? My next goal is to talk to him when he's alone... im nervous :$

[Flavalicious]

Originally Posted by Skysfallingg

Thank you all sooo much for your help, it actually gave me confidence i saw him this morning (he wasn't there yesterday) but he was with one of my friends. I said hi to them both, and he said it back!!! I guess this means he's open to being friends, maybe? My next goal is to talk to him when he's alone... im nervous :$

I'm so glad that everything turns out well with you; there is a progress here Just remember to stay confident always and yes, build a friendship with him, that will be a good start. Good luck!