[Ennui.]

Hey there,

I think that one of the best things you can do for her is let her know that you are there for her. Show her how much you care about her and remind her that she can come to you when she needs someone to talk to and you will listen without judging.

Maybe you can also do small gestures for her, even if it's just getting her out of the house for a while and to somewhere fun. I know sometimes it helps me just to get out for a while and do something to distract me, especially if it's with someone like a friend.

If you want, you can also give her this list of alternatives to self harm. Let her know that these are healthier, safer ways to cope that won't leave her with any of the lasting effects of self harm, like having to hide, scars, or risking infection.

Also encourage her to seek help. I'm unsure of how old the two of you are, but if you are school age, you can get help from someone like a teacher, guidance counselor, school nurse, coach, or club adviser. You can tell her to speak with a family member, doctor, therapist, or religious leader as well. If you ever think that she is in any danger, you can always speak to someone such as a teacher to make sure she stays safe.

I hope all goes well!

-Dez