Originally Posted by WillB
I think there might be a miscommunication here. This is not who I want to be. I have no friends. My personality is unattractive. roommates i lived with for about 2 years, I don't hear from them unless i email or call. No one calls me and chats.
Honestly, I do have a tendancy to be alone. I sort of like playing games by myself. But I know that is not the way to live. It is unhealthy and selfish. And I don't care for people telling me otherwise. I feel the purpose of life is the relationships and experiences we develop with people.
I am asking for help in how to foster relationships. I don't know who I am to say whether I am being something I am not. I want to be with people.
Simply put, find someone who you may like, such as similar style of clothing or something very obvious and easy to have similarity with you. Then, go up and depending where they are currently (i.e. university campus, gym, shopping mall, etc...), ask them a rather obvious question that can help build a conversation but not to make it very unusual. For example, if they're at a shopping mall and suppose they do go to your university campus, you could approach them and ask in a rather curious tone if they do go to the university or purposely pick a false name (i.e. if they're name is Bob, call them at first Trevor).
You know very well who you are, and judging from your posts, I could give a rough outline of who you are. If you want to be with people, then simply go be with them. If you meet someone and you two don't quite get along, then so what? You've gone out, had some experience and can move onto someone else.
Keeping the relationships are always very difficult and due to the immense diversity of people, I don't know of any "recipe" for maintaining one.