It could have been the brand. I haven't had problems with condoms so I don't know a lot about this issue. It is possible for you to go to the doctor and not have your mom in the room. Just tell her you'd like to go in alone. My parents were really laid back about this kind of stuff and once I started driving I was going to some appointments alone.

I think a doctor would be able to do tests to see what your allergic too. I'd suggest trying a different brand and see if that works.

I know it would probably be less stress if you could find condoms that work. I'm really paranoid about getting pregnant so I won't have sex without condoms even though I'm on birth control.

Sorry I can't think of anything else to advise.