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Re: How would you define sexual harrassment - October 3rd 2016, 04:44 PM

The above is pretty much correct, except I disagree with it being "bullying". I don't think it necessarily is bullying. I think that "bullying" is a subset of "harassment".

I do think most people have a different idea of what "harassment" is, and similar applies to "sexual harassment". There's been plenty of ambiguity, so a legal definition is a good place to start. What is important in the definition above is the word "unwelcome".

If someone makes it clear, that another person's advancements, comments, or even presence is unwelcome, and that person carried on anyway, then that could constitute harassment. Not necessarily, but it could. It should be remembered that people have a right to use public space, and simply because (for example) a guy sits next to a girl on a bus who finds his presence uncomfortable, doesn't mean it is "harassment". Some people fail to understand this. She is free to go sit somewhere else. If he stalks her, follows her, then yes, then it can be called "harassment", although it's not necessarily easy to prove.

But referring back a little, a person should make it reasonably clear that those advancements are not welcome. Some people are less receptive to body language signals than other people, and simply won't see it that you find them annoying. If you don't make it clear that you don't like their advancements, then you can't really say they're harassing you, because they aren't even aware they're doing it. It may be hurtful to point it out, but that's life. Nothing's perfect, and in my opinion, if someone can't find it in them to make the effort to pick up basic body language signals which suggest that their presence is unwelcome, then it's their fault that other people have to resort to more abrasive/direct ways of telling them to go bother someone else.

And this is coming from someone (me) who's been diagnosed with Asperger's, a symptom of which is poor receptiveness to people's body language. I really find it ironic that I grasp these things better than probably half the people I know. I think it's just because I make an effort and they don't.


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