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Originally Posted by Cassado
Hi,
I have only skimmed through these other replies, and I see you've been given some great advice. Apologies if I am a little repetitive, though.
Though the terms and laws around rape and abuse may define it one way or another through a legal standpoint, it is important to identify it for yourself. Yes, legally, what you have experienced is rape. And as it has been said, rape does not always have to be violent or upsetting. However, you said you're uncomfortable with the term "rape." If you're uncomfortable with that, use a word you feel more comfortable using instead.
Denial is something a lot of survivors experience. I am not saying you are in denial; what I want to say, is that you may want to consider keeping note of your feelings over time to ensure that you are calling your experiences what you are for the right reasons, (because you want to) rather than doing it as a way to invalidate yourself.
This is your experience so you should define it and work through it based on how you feel about it. How you feel and what you want to define it as may change over time as well.
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I think maybe misconduct seems like a better term to me. For what happened.
I don't feel like I'm in denial I know I am not interested in 11 years old girls or boys. So I guess that is odd but on my half of the situation I just don't really feel it negatively affected me.