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Re: I need advice. Please help. - July 29th 2017, 02:42 PM

Hey,

Welcome to TeenHelp.

The fact that you don't like how you're living and you're looking to change things for yourself is really positive. You said you've talked to your parents about needing a little bit of independence and it hasn't worked. Do you think you could try again, and word things differently? For instance, you can tell them that more independence will be good for you but it will also be good for them because they'll get time together and they'll know that you'll be safe and independent to prepare for adulthood. You could also see if you can make a curfew or other compromises, such as checking in every so often.

Another thing you can try to do is spend more time with your parents. You said you often don't feel like talking to them so you spend time in your room, but spending a little bit more time with them may encourage them to give you the independence that you are seeking. You don't even have to talk to them; you can just be present with them.

If you don't want to spend more time with your parents, you can always spend more time out of your room in different areas of the house. A change of pace could help you out a little bit.

Do you think you could reframe the negative thoughts you're having? For example, you said you have a long travel to see someone and it's more effort because it's summer but you could reframe it to something about how it will be less of an effort when summer comes to a close.


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