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Yes, I've had family members changing including myself. It's not easy on others. It is hard when a family member's behaviour changes.

From what you've said about how he is now hygienic and showering sounds as if he's found someone who he likes from his work which could be why he is trying hard to make a really great impression. You mentioned that he is 31, if he has met someone he may well have said to them that he's living on his own instead of admitting that he lives with his family so he can try to impress them which could be why he has bought a place of his own.

Before he started work did he use to eat with the family? With regards to shopping, that is bad that he's not getting food for the rest of the family. As he hasn't had to do the shopping before he might still be thinking that it's everyone else's duty to do the shopping. Does he get given the shopping list? It might be that he needs someone to go with him a few times to show him how to do the food shopping.

Once he leaves the family home is there any means of keeping in contact with him, as if he has found someone he likes they could either be a good or a bad influence on him. For not paying bills, he's going to find it hard when he has to pay his own bills. It would be worth having a family talk with him and explaining that once he moves out he can't rely on the family to keep paying the bills for him.