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Re: Helping a friend - July 26th 2020, 12:58 PM

Thanks for reaching out and it's so nice of you to care so much about your best friend. You've asked all the right questions too! Correct, you do not want to be condescending or try to sound like a therapist. Remember, the choices she makes are ultimately hers; you can only do so much, so please remember that. I wouldn't be too harsh or critical of her choices, but just stand on the sidelines and let her know (but don't do it often!) that you are there for her if she ever needs a friend to speak to or a shoulder to cry on. Don't use those words exactly, because then she'd get the impression you don't believe she can actually achieve her dreams. I would pretty much try to stick to what you've been doing as friends for years; right, she is going to get overwhelmed with medical school and everything else she has to do, but still be that friend you've been for all these years.

Additionally, perhaps try talking about these things now and not when she's started school.