[Kate*]

You felt so bad that I didn't contact you on Father's day that you waited over a MONTH to tell me. Yet, you forgot when I had SURGERY and have almost forgotten my birthday multiple times. I feel like I've finally let a lot of the stuff with you go, which was only possible with the separation/boundaries I put in place. I'm not sure how to take this though. There's a twinge of guilt, but it's also the same shit you always pull; doing or saying something which I respond to with a boundary, and then playing the victim.

I felt like you might really hear it this time, so I told you AGAIN, calmly, respectfully, and in writing (so you can't deny I said it.) The ball is in your court, and as I was no provocative, I am not responsible for your reaction. I'm both nervous and not, because whatever you do with it now is your choice, and if you want to throw a tantrum, I can't stop you.