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Re: worried - August 15th 2023, 11:28 PM

As Dez stated, I think the fact that your girlfriend invited you to hang out with her and her friends at the shore is a sign that she's more than okay with you joining them. If you're comfortable with going, I think it could be a great opportunity for you! Not only will it give you the chance to spend more time with her, it will give you the chance to see her in a different environment and get to know her friends better. All of that can give you a window into who she is and help you get to know her better, which definitely sounds like a win.

Your concerns about her cheating are definitely understandable. Would you be able to talk to her about your concerns and fears? If you do, I would highly encourage you to use "I statements" such as "I'm feeling a little worried about being cheated on if alcohol is involved" or "I need some reassurance that, whether you're drinking or not, our relationship is in a solid place". Be mindful of the type of language that you use, as you definitely don't want to sound accusatory, which could lead her to being less receptive to the conversation as a whole. That being said, whether you choose to talk to her about it or not won't necessarily change what she is going to do. She knows she is in a relationship, but what she does with that information is entirely up to her. While being cheated on is certainly painful, just know that you will be seeing her true colors if that's what she chooses to do, which can be a good thing in the end. It will prevent you from wasting time on someone that doesn't value being in a relationship with you and give you the chance to find someone that is appreciative of everything that you have to offer. Here's hoping she doesn't cheat, though!!

I think it's great that you were able to talk to her about what you noticed regarding her Snap score and your feelings about it. I'm glad she was able to provide you with some reassurance as well. Being able to communicate about things like that is a huge step towards having a healthy relationship. Keep that momentum going as much as you can when any concerns arise and be sure to do the same for her if she brings up any concerns in the future. Creating a two-way street that allows respectful, open communication will allow the two of you to continue to grow your relationship in a way that is extremely healthy.

Fingers crossed that things continue to go well for the two of you!!


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