I recently broke up with my gf and I had to because I was uncertain about a lot of things. Most of this was due to stress from overthinking every little detail in the relationship. It made everything so un-enjoyable because I always had these thoughts on my mind.
I ended up having to break up with her to figure things out. Now that I have figured out exactly what I want (8 days later) she tells me she just doesn't have those feelings for me right now and she is getting frustrated with me always bringing this stuff up. (I've talked about it 2 times with her and wrote her a note about exactly how I feel) I feel like I am just pushing her away even more.
The last thing she told me when we were talking about our relationship was that she just doesn't have those feelings for me right now because of everything. She gave me a completel reasonable answer as to why which was, she started to try to lose feelings for me because we tried making the relationship work for a month but she saw it wasn't going anywhere and she saw where it was going to end so she used that as a defense mechanism. But I mean, this girl had REALLY strong feelings for me and I REALLY like her to. She even wrote me a 6 page note on Valentines day with a giant cake as well. What she said was really amazing about me.
She has said things like "You are so amazing, you are the best boyfriend I have ever had, you make me so happy, you don't treat me like a dick like all my previous boyfriends, you are great to me and I hope you never leave me."
Now she says she doesn't have those feelings for me? Is she just mad about the break up? She even told her friends that she doesn't have those feelings now...
But anyway, I feel like the best approach to do this is to yet again confront her even though she's frustrated with it, it feels like the right thing to do. I feel like I should tell her over the phone this....
"Look, I know I said I wouldn't bring up all this stuff again but I feel like it has to be said. The breakup was a complete mistake but it was also worth it at the same time. It made me realize how much I like you and how much you mean to me and how much I truly do want you. You really do mean the world to me and I'm sorry for the breakup and I'm sorry for hurting you and making things confusing but I needed that time to figure out exactly what I wanted so this can work and I do have that answer. I'm not in the mood to play games and figure out if you want me or not, I want you and this can work! I respect your every decision but I can stand being played around with if that's what you are doing. I am really hoping you can give me that second chance you told me about.
As hard as it is for me to say but if you can't accept this, I'm done and I'll stop bothering you but I can't constantly be like this and go no where with it and always be in question. I miss you so much."
Will this just scare her away even more or can it jolt her to coming back to me?
