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Originally Posted by DanielR
A close friend once told me: "Never believe a woman when she says 'it's fine', 'I just can't handle a relationship right now' or 'I just don't have those feelings anymore'.
I have to agree. She is afraid that you will hurt her again. So she should be, right? While, no... it's perfectly natural to feel frustrated with the complications of a relationship, its not completely your fault. You had doubts, for whatever reason (you didn't state these), and for now... its 'on the rocks'.
What I would suggest, is that you stand back... and let her make her decisions. Let her know that you're always there for her if she needs you, but let her think. There is a line where pressure is enough, and too much... you seem to be applying WAY too much. And yes, it's completely understandable! You love her deeply (obviously) and you're expecting her end of the deal (she's told you you're the best thing ever... so on..) to follow through. If there's one thing I've learnt about women... its that when given the opportunity to 'play' with a mans mind/heart/etc... she'll do it. She will be trying to make you feel the way she felt when you hurt her. I know it'll be hard, but stand your ground... don't allow her to see how painful it is.
In amongst that jumble of words, I hope there is something that can help you  |
So what exactly do you think I should do?
She got angry for me not putting in an effort not talking to her because she's just like "I want to be friends, but that doesn't mean not talk to me!" I then said that I did this because I told you about how I feel about you and how being friends is hard for me so I try, but its difficult and also at the same time I'm trying to give you space.
She also got mad at me for asking her friends if she has said anything to them because she thought I had something to tell her so she got mad because she thought I wasn't telling her something. I then told her about that that I didn't ask her because I know how you get all frustrated talking about our relationship. She calmed down a little after this.
So what am I to do?
I also got a little mad later on with her and brought up a situation where I thought she lied to me. Ya I know, terrible idea.
