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Originally Posted by Vlora
I think "Love" is a little too strong a word but its obvious you both like each other a lot, and it may well turn into love.
I know you're scared, I would be too in your situation, but just do what you think is right. If you think its best to wait a little while, do so.
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Yeah love is a really strong word! I mean I was in love with my ex and I may very well still be in love with her. Love is a really strong word...just as strong as hate!
And I just got even more scared! She just told me "you are the one I want to be with. I will wait as long as I have to." And it really freaked me out!
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Originally Posted by Rie
Hey there. (:
In my personal opinion I think that you should leave it a while. As you said, you're still not over the break up with your ex. Was it a painful break up with your ex or are the two of you still friends? There's no rush to get into another relationship. Sex doesn't necessarily mean that you have to get together. There's nothing wrong with being friends with benefits. Does she know about the situation between you and your ex? If you explain that it's still early days and you don't feel ready to rush into a relationship just yet, but you may feel ready in the future, surely she will understand? You clearly like her a lot, a relationship with her may be on the cards in the future.
You say in your thread; "I just don't want to make it seem like I'm using you!" What makes you feel that it may seem as though you're using her? Liking someone doesn't make you silly, using, or stupid. Just take your time and communicate with her!
How about writing up a list of pros and cons about getting together with her? It could make it easy to decide on what to do next. She sounds like a very understanding, patient girl who really does care about you. If you don't feel ready for a relationship then you definitely have a good friend. There's no need to rush.
Take care.
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Me and my ex are still friends, but she really wants to be with me. She is in love with me still!And yes this girl does know about me and my ex. I have explained to her that I'm not ready rightnow and she does understand and I find it really incredible that she is so understanding!
I say "using" because I had sex with her. I don't want her to feel like I am using her for sex.I think I'll try that list idea. Seems like it could be really benificial. Thanks!