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Friend's hellish situation - June 2nd 2010, 02:41 AM

Just a heads up, this entire situation is involving a friend of mine, so...yeah. I may mention outside sources of stress but my primary concern is of her father.

A girl-friend of mine ended up moving (for the third consecutive year) to a sexist state all because her father refused to admit that her mother was making more money than him. Her dad has apparently hit her mom on one or two occasions, and verbally abuses my friend to all hell.

Several examples of such abuse include:
-Being told she's an ungrateful bitch when she asks to move in with a friend (whose parents have fully agreed) in Texas where students don't hate her for being a genius
-Being lectured not to brag when she gets a 2200 on the SAT and a 36 on the ACT (one of the few things she has to be proud of)
-Knowingly neglecting to not have any money saved for her college fund

She's been abused to the point that she thinks that she's being selfish and pathetic by feeling bad at all and that everything is wrong with her. Her boyfriend (in Texas) often forgets to ever call/text/communicate with her at all and the situation is only worsened. She's also tormented at school for being rank one in her class by a full school year.

All these things (and more) have piled onto her and pushed her to the point of calling or texting me just about every other night in tears. I've mentioned that she should involve the CPS and she rejected the idea due to the fact that she believes there'd be no evidence and mainly because it'd mean having her sisters taken away and them not understanding what was wrong in the situation. I've mentioned trying to involve her mother and she said she just bends to her father's will. Any suggestions on what she should do in this situation?


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