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Trust your gut! Do not go near this guy. You are clearly uncomfortable with the situation; the fact that he still bothers you proves that he cannot be trusted. His friends are a good reflection of that. If he wasn’t a misogynistic bastard, he wouldn’t allow his friends to harass you.

I strongly recommend telling your mother to keep him away from you if you are uncomfortable. It is not your fault for being uncomfortable; it is their fault for disrespecting you by invading your space. You have a right to your own body and to be left alone.

There is nothing wrong with not liking men or fearing men. I am a lesbian separatist; I don’t associate with men at all. Men commit practically all rapes, most womin will be molested at some time in there lives by men, be it at a bar, or in their home. And how many men sexually harass womin everyday? Statistically, it only makes sense to avoid them. Your safety should not be put at risk just to avoid hurting some grown man's feelings. Obviously you do not have to become a separatist, but just know that the option is there. I wish you all the best.