[HopelessVictim]

It's not that I'm upset over this, but two different people have already told me that I am rude...However, I'll be honest here, I am afraid of being nice and opening up to others because I did that in the past and opened a door that allowed access for people to step all over me and take advantage of me, then push me out of their lives. And they did. That's why I'm so rude to people because I fear that if I am nice I will be stepped on because that is how most people are in this selfish world we live in.

Thing is, I really want to be nice. But I'm afraid that if I start being nice again people will take advantage of me and I will have to re-live everything that I had to go through in the past. I don't want to be used again for another person's selfish wants. But I don't want to keep being ruse and pushing people away from me. I don't know what to do.

Help?