[Nova]

Been there!

I hated kissing before my current boyfriend. I'd only kissed two guys perviously (and only one session each... and never again because it was TERRIBLE). I had this horrible fear of kissing (and relationships, but that's another story) because both just went in for the kill straight on. I figured it was just "what people did." Then, my first kiss with my boyfriend was quite a learning experience. Due to my inexperience and past kisses, I was the one who made it awkward but he was able to pull me back a little and start small and then we built up from there. And I agree with you, that's how it should be.

It can be confusing if you've had bad experiences, especially as an inexperienced kisser. You don't know what the expectations or the "right strategy" is. It is different for everyone, but if you're able to start small, just with little nibbles and then work your way up at a comfortable pace, you'll get the hang of it. Heck, this can even be within ONE session. But it's always best not to force your tongue down someones throat from the get-go. In the future, if you need to, pull the guy back a little bit and take it at your own pace.

Good luck! You'll enjoy kissing soon enough.