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Didn't read through all the replies, so sorry if i'm just repeating what everyone else has said i just want to add my little input as well. I feel like this, pretty much all the time, i'm in a stable, serious relationship but i'm just too young, just started a new job and me and my boyfriend still live with my parents. We're in no position to have a baby yet. I had to take the morning after pill last year because the condom split, and i can't help but think that if we hadn't had gone and got that pill then we'd have a baby by now. Sometimes i feel releived because i know we were/are in no position to have a family just yet, but at the same time my maternal instincts kick in and i feel sad, really really sad. Sometimes i feel like i aborted it, as opposed to preventing it.

I think a family of my own is the one thing i want more than anything in the world, but i also know that if i'm smart i will wait untill the time is right, we have a place of our own and a bit more money. Obviously accidents happen, and i don't have anything against young mum's if anything i admire them for being so brave and stepping up to their responsibilities, but if i can help it i would rather wait at least two years, when i'm 21 and my boyfriend is 25.

Also i don't think having a baby ruins lives, i see it as more of a really really big change. Seeing it as a way of ruining people's lives is really negative and if you think about it, how would you feel if you found out that your parents thought of you as a life ruiner at one point? Yes some people just aren't ready for it but your life isn't ruined from having a baby, you just have to make a lot of sacrifices and changes to give the kid the best possible start to life.