[PSY]

Originally Posted by Bearded Lifter

have not read through the thread, but I have a question for teh ladies:

Why is it that you don't just tell me you're straight up not interested vs. giving me your number, agreeing to a date and then flaking?

/frustration

Because many girls have this strange idea that guys are going to FALL APART if we flat-out reject them. So they try to let them down gently... which just means they give the guy false hope and/or lead him on. Some girls are just plain malicious and enjoy bragging to their friends about how many guys they can get, without actually committing. Other girls don't mean to be malicious - they just suck at being straight-forward. They prefer the implied rejection, which is demonstrated by not showing up for a date. They let YOU do the dirty work and figure out that she's not interested, because they don't want to be the bearers of bad news. I doubt they realize that what they're doing, which is intended to make the rejection LESS painful, is actually MORE painful.