Re: Bad anxiety making it hard to speak up -
May 12th 2011, 01:07 AM
Breaking up with someone in person is hard, there will be tears, it will take a while, and judging from what you've said, he will try and win you back on the spot. Try and think about what you want to say, and how you're going to say it. Even try and plan for what he might say back, so you're prepared for what you need to say. You've made your decision, and he needs to deal with it.
As Shannon said, you can do it over the phone, though it's not advisable, as it's a bit of a sucky way to dump someone when you can do it in person.
I think you need to tell him the truth, tell him that he's just not right for you. There is nothing wrong with not feeling the same way he does, and he should be able to understand that.
Taking deep breaths, and imagining some happy thoughts [cliché, I know] will help in calming you down. Know that you're doing the best thing for both of you, because by staying with him, you're stopping him find someone who will love him the way he loves you. Relationships require both parties to be happy, and you're not as happy as you should be with him. Don't feel bad for this, you cannot change what your heart feels.
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