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Re: I just want to help... - May 22nd 2011, 07:47 AM

When your sister is brought in to be screened for Autism, you should ask the psychologist/psychiatrist about a medication for the ADHD, if she isn't already taking one. If she is on medication, then it should be suggested to the doctor that the medication is either ineffective or not doing what it should be doing. ADHD can be very hard to deal with for the person who as it, as well as the people who are around the person frequently (like family). Because a person with ADHD isn't always in complete control of emotions, she can be dangerous to you, your mother, your other sister, and to herself. You mention that she punched and kicked at what seemed like a minor incident. While she's probably physically weaker than you, it's still not worth risking injury to anyone.

It's noble and very kind of you to be taking care of your mother while you're dealing with your sister. However, you should at least try to take some time to yourself every day. Even if it's only five or ten minutes, if you had some time to relax alone, with your own undistracted thoughts, you'd be able to clear your mind at least somewhat and be more relaxed when dealing with whatever issues arise in your house (and outside of it, too).

Your other sister (the 14 year old) is probably overwhelmed with everything around her and doesn't know what to do about it or how to cope with it. While she may not be open to talking about her thoughts and feelings, you should at least remind her that you're always there for her, and that it's better for her to talk to someone (even if it isn't you) about it rather than hold it all in for too long. You were fourteen years old too once, so you probably remember it as being one of the more tumultuous years of your life. There's a lot going on when you're fourteen, and to be confronted with your ten year old sister and your mother's issues only compounds that.

I think you're doing about everything you can within your power to help. Just make sure that you've taken care of yourself and your own needs before you try to openly take on someone else's challenges.


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