[PSY]

Hello, and welcome to TeenHelp! I'm sorry it took so long for you to receive a response.

Unfortunately, you can't convince someone to love you, to let their defenses down when they're not ready to do so. So if he's not willing to be a constant presence in your life, you'll need to find other people who can support you. Those could be anything from family members and friends, to teachers and guidance counselors, to people whom you've never met before.

Don't think of this as "losing" him. You just can't have him in the way you want him right now. Think positive thoughts - this is not the end of the world for you, or for him. It's just a time for the two of you to grow and heal apart from each other. Your friendship/relationship may even become stronger as a result. It's important to learn how to live life independent of significant others - becoming codependent on someone can be just as unhealthy, if not more so, than being separated from someone you care about.

I wish you all the best. Take care!