[Jas]

I'm kind of picking and choosing what I respond to here.... hopefully this will make sense.

I don't consider myself 'used' because I've had sex. I respect myself, my body, and the partners I've had. As far as your questions, yeah, of course I've regretted some actions. But the handful of times I've ended up in a 'little crumpled pile' after a relationship it was usually because there was a pretty deep emotional attachment and not to do with sex. Honestly when I think about my last relationship and sex, I regret not having *more* sex with him because we learned a lot from each other about our sexuality.

This said (and I'm not trying to pull the age card here in a bad way) I didn't feel like that at 15 and I respectfully think that your position may change as you age. I wasn't in the wait til marriage category, but my views on pretty much all things sexual have done a 360 in the last six years and I think that's pretty normal...

Anyway, moving on to the objectification bit, which was the whole point - yeah, society does a pretty good job of making women into sexual objects in a thorough way. But there's a difference between some dude not respecting his girlfriend (a problem) and her consenting to sexual actions that she's into and he's into. So I'm kind of wondering what exactly the talk was about. When you think "why did she let you do that to her" what exactly was going on? I can't really think about your guy friends objectifying anyone until I know what they were actually saying...

I'm sure I've missed something I meant to say, but that'll do for now. By the way, no worries, no offense taken in these quarters... everyone has the right to their own opinion...