Triggering (Suicide): BoyFriend vs Bestfriend & ME!

[Lovehatelife23]

Im lost once again in this misery of life. I've been together with my boyfriend since August 2012 & its been a while & we had our hard times but now im thinking we rushed it to fast. His mother still hate me. My best friend is like getting irritated with him & i blow it all off. My boyfriend does the same thing & im like WTF! Im in the middle of this & i cant tell them one thing or everyone will get upset & it will start drama again. My boyfriend just had a 3some with me & my best friend which i think was a HUGE BAD IDEA!!! Now its gotten worse where all i hear is her name. I tell him stop constantly & he doesnt understand. I'm trying to get a job & get into college in January 2014. My boyfriend wont stay @ his own home that his mom bought him which is a 3Bed 2bath & he has a cat. He follows me around like a puppy dog. He constantly complains bout his job which he works @ walmart. I'm once again hiding my TRUE FEELINGS inside of me until i BURST into FLAMES like i did in 2007. Between living with my parents & helping him out & hangout out with others just is so COMPLICATED! Im not selfish but wat am i suppose to do when stuff hits like this. Im hurting & i cant talk to no one. my parents are blowing me off again like before. I dont understand why is it like this.

[Ral.]

Hi Leslie,

I'm sorry to hear about your current situation you're in, but I assure you that things will get better!

Have you spoken to your boyfriends mother and asked her why she dislikes you? Or have you given her any reason to do so? If not I think that it is stupid that she has a disliking towards you. If she has no reason to do so, I think that you should try and keep your distance from her if possible, because she seems like an unpleasant person to be around when you're feeling like this.


As for your boyfriend issue, I think that you should try and talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and how he's making you feel. It's better if he knows this because if he truly loves you, he'll try and change his ways in order to accommodate to how you feel.

Have you tried writing down how you feel in a journal in order to help you understand exactly what's making you feel this way about your life? For example, the things your best friend does or the things that other people do that effects you? I think this would be a good thing to do because it allows you to vent out your emotions in a safe way, so that you don't do anything damaging to your body.

I hope that I've helped you in some way with this reply, and I hope everything sorts itself out, good luck!

~Jack.

[mibbz]

I went through a similar situation not too long ago where I made the decision to leave my best friend. Given, nothing really pressed for it to happen and it was completely all my decision, but I chose to keep my boyfriend over my best friend whom I had known a little longer and had become very close to. I don't regret it, to be completely honest. She was causing me to point my anger and frustration towards my boyfriend due to her own issues and pointing fingers because he wasn't perfect, at least in her eyes. Most of it had to do with myself. Now, instead of focusing on or thinking of how he's not perfect, I usually tend to think about my own flaws and them alone - it's not healthy at all, but I'm happier in a sense.

Depending on what you mean by you hear her name constantly, I'm going to assume he's constantly talking about her and it bothers you that he's so focused on her all of a sudden. In my honest opinion, any man who is fine with sharing his body with another woman other than the one he claims to love is lying. I'd go so far as to include my opinion on men who watch porn and try to justify it, but that's my own opinion. If you need space from him, on the other hand, you should tell him about it. Truly, if he does love you, he'll do what he can to make you happy. As for the mother thing, seeing as how my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me purely because I made it clear I wouldn't join everyone else in his family in treating her like a perfect little princess, all I can say is that it may or may not be because of her own issues and that you more than likely haven't done anything wrong, but you can ask your boyfriend to try and help to figure out what her problem with you is.

I know none of this is easy, trust me. If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here for you.