Drink 'N Smoke

[matthewmatters]

So next year, I will have gone five years without a drop of booze (in march) and five years without a puff of smoke (in july), although I really can't get why it's such a big deal to some people about why I gave up alcohol back then and have gone without. Do they tend to be jealous people who secretly are hooked?

I could understand if someone came to me and said "i'm having trouble giving it up myself, what are your suggestions?" but it's not what they said.

[Chris]

Hey there, Matthew.

First off, congratulations on your many years of sobriety! I think people consider it a big deal because they may want to relate to why you have chosen to go the path that you did (sobriety). Even in some cases, people may be embarrassed to simply ask for help or to admit to having a problem (one of the hard levels of obtaining sobriety) so instead of asking for advice or tips on how to do it, they'd rather ask you about the path that you took, and will most likely try to see what fits for them. I'm not sure of your age, but if you're younger, I'm assuming you get even more people asking you about this. At a younger age, we all know it's very common for teens/young adults to over-indulge in alcohol and other addictions. With that being said, I think this is the age group that also has a hard time asking for help.

A common thing in life is that we always want what we don't have (i.e., "the grass is always greener on the other side"). In this situation, those with addictions often want sobriety, but they have no resources to find it. Maybe you can be that resource, that beacon of light, that help for those struggling with these addictions.


Best wishes,
Chris