Questions for the opposite sex

[Eternal]

Originally Posted by Warachia

But, my dear friend.. you are forgetting.

I can reject their answers to ask me out.

Is it good to never answer a girl's question about you?

Yes, you can reject them but you were asking how to repel them, which means you don't want any girls even asking you out in the first place. Thus, no need o reject.
And always answer a girl's question about you.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Originally Posted by Warachia

Is it good to never answer a girl's question about you?

Um why wouldn't you answer their questions? Unless they're totally personal & you're uncomfortable answering them, I don't see why you wouldn't.

[sarahmm17]

Answer: We like to win because guys get to do lots of stuff but girls never really feel in charge. The guys does all the big strenuous stuff and I myself just like to one up him mentally. You have to deal with it.

To Guys: What is the first thing you notice about a girl?

[Callalily]

To guys: Why do you send mixed messages if you like someone?

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Callalily

To guys: Why do you send mixed messages if you like someone?

Because just like a lot of girls, we are sometime insecure and unsure of ourselves and don't want to get to far out there and get our nutts chopped off. (figuratively speaking I guess)

Originally Posted by sarahmm17

Answer: We like to win because guys get to do lots of stuff but girls never really feel in charge. The guys does all the big strenuous stuff and I myself just like to one up him mentally. You have to deal with it.

To Guys: What is the first thing you notice about a girl?

Personally, and if you're talking about the very first thing that makes me take a second look...it's the body, especially if she has nice breasts.

[r_elusiveanime]

sorry just throwing question here rather than answering, cause i find too many question here . . .

my PM is always available for anyone to ask some specific man answers . . .

i wonder why girls ( my personal experiences with all of my ex n friends abroad ) always / keep askin my pic or when we met always took pictures of mine with their camera . . .

i don't think it is a coincidence ( because not just 1 or 2 who did or ask for it ) . . .

any help from girls, young lady, women would be much appreciated . . .

sincerely . . .

[Evanesco]

Originally Posted by r_elusiveanime

i wonder why girls ( my personal experiences with all of my ex n friends abroad ) always / keep askin my pic or when we met always took pictures of mine with their camera . . .

Most of the girls I know love taking pictures of people. Give them a camera and EVERYONE will have had a dozen pictures taken of them. Add in one 'novelty' guy and they all want pics of the guy, because... well... he's a guy. It's just fun, in my experience.

[Raining Glitter]

Originally Posted by r_elusiveanime

i wonder why girls ( my personal experiences with all of my ex n friends abroad ) always / keep askin my pic or when we met always took pictures of mine with their camera . . .

i don't think it is a coincidence ( because not just 1 or 2 who did or ask for it ) . . .

any help from girls, young lady, women would be much appreciated . . .

sincerely . . .

I really don't mean to sound creepy by this, but by what I've experienced, it might be the girl wanting to have a picture to creep/giggle at or because the girl wants to brag/show the pic to her friends. Some girls can be nosey and they like to see who their friend is always giggling/talking about. So basically they beg their friend to somehow get a picture. It can be kinda really amusing, really. Girls can be creepy like that xD Don't worry, it's probably a compliment if she asks for your picture

[James_mc]

how old is too late for sex just wondering

[Solivagant]

Originally Posted by James_mc

how old is too late for sex just wondering

I don't think there is any age to have sex. Its about when you are comfortable doing it with someone, whether you know have known that someone for a long or it can be just anyone random is up to you.
It is about you, about when you feel you are ready.

[Eternal]

Originally Posted by James_mc

how old is too late for sex just wondering

There isn't really an age that is 'too old'. I will say that you're only 17, so don't worry if you're feeling like you should have had sex already. Lot's of people don't until they're older, such as people who wait until they are married.

[James_mc]

Originally Posted by Melody

There isn't really an age that is 'too old'. I will say that you're only 17, so don't worry if you're feeling like you should have had sex already. Lot's of people don't until they're older, such as people who wait until they are married.

i want to but im just really shy and i cant even talk to girls at all i cant even look at them

[Choose]

Originally Posted by James_mc

i want to but im just really shy and i cant even talk to girls at all i cant even look at them

Haha what does one do when they are having trouble talking to girls?...


TALK TO AS MANY OF THEM AS POSSIBLE!

For real though, everyone moves at their own pace. If you don't feel ready to talk to girls, it's okay to focus on your own stuff. My dad didn't kiss a girl til he was 26 and the girl was happy to be his first... well, everything. You've got plenty of time.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Originally Posted by James_mc

how old is too late for sex just wondering

There is no set age for sex. Go at your own pace & do what's comfortable for YOU.

Originally Posted by James_mc

i want to but im just really shy and i cant even talk to girls at all i cant even look at them

Alex gave a great suggestion. Talk to any girl, even if it's just to be friends & only friends. It helps you gain the courage to talk to more girls you might want to date.

[Eternal]

Originally Posted by James_mc

i want to but im just really shy and i cant even talk to girls at all i cant even look at them

Start small. Find a girl who you aren't really attracted to (it will make it easier for you) and just start talking to her. It takes practice, but talking to girls will get easier the more you do it. I like Alex's suggestion, but don't worry if that seems to stressful for you. Remember that girls aren't constantly judging you. You don't need to be nervous

[Choose]

To clarify, by "talk to girls" I mean every person of the female persuasion. Like old, young, big, small, short tall...



TALK TO THEM ALL.

[Shawn K.]

Girls in my age group 13-17:

A guy told you he liked you. You told the guy you liked him. You've both been on a couple "kid's dates"

You are not official boyfriend and girlfriend, but you did invite him to your party as your escort.

He texts you saying he's sorry but you might hear some stuff about him that might hurt you or make you mad, and before you hear it from somebody else, he wants to tell you he made out with another girl.

Do you:

Tell him to kiss your ass cause he's a cheating loser?
Think it was sweet that he cared about your feelings?
Not give a rat's butt what he did?
Like him even more because he's honest and caring?
Let him twist in the wind for awhile?
Tell him "well let's make it official?"
Do or say some other thing I didn't think about?

[Tyr.]

Shawn K,

Many guys will claim that if you are not in an official relationship, then kissing another girl does not qualify as "cheating", and what you did was fine. That's just playing with fucking semantics, in my opinion.

This girl confides that she likes you, and you tell her that you like her too. You go on a couple of dates, attend a party as a loosely formed "couple", and then you admit that you've been hooking up with another girl. You chose short term gratification and desire, and in doing so you demonstrated a lack of honesty, discipline and commitment to others. You put your own happiness ahead of this girl's happiness. That is not how a man should live. It is a very difficult, almost impossible, pursuit. But one you should be striving for. You fucked up this time, so now it's up to you to get your shit together and make sure it doesn't happen again.

Apologize to this girl for what you have done. As I have said elsewhere, take the consequences with grace and humility.

I hope you can recover the situation and make this girl happy.

- Yogi

[Shawn K.]

Thanks very much Yogi. You're right and I knew it was messed up. After a couple replies to my post on whether it was cheating, I saw that the semantics weren't the issue. I acted like an asshole.

I posted this question because I did apologize. We texted yesterday. I'm trying to get some opinions from the ladies on what her response might be. Thanks for being around here for knuckleheads like me...

EDIT: I wasn't clear about the party... It hasn't happened yet... Doesn't change much in my mind though, might make me look worse.

[Viky]

Originally Posted by Shawn K.

Girls in my age group 13-17:

A guy told you he liked you. You told the guy you liked him. You've both been on a couple "kid's dates"

You are not official boyfriend and girlfriend, but you did invite him to your party as your escort.

He texts you saying he's sorry but you might hear some stuff about him that might hurt you or make you mad, and before you hear it from somebody else, he wants to tell you he made out with another girl.

Do you:

Tell him to kiss your ass cause he's a cheating loser?
Think it was sweet that he cared about your feelings?
Not give a rat's butt what he did?
Like him even more because he's honest and caring?
Let him twist in the wind for awhile?
Tell him "well let's make it official?"
Do or say some other thing I didn't think about?

I would probably think it was really sweet that he cared enough about my feelings to brave up and tell me about that. I'd probably like him a bit more too because he's brave enough to do that as well as caring and smart to guess that i would hear about it

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Viky

I would probably think it was really sweet that he cared enough about my feelings to brave up and tell me about that. I'd probably like him a bit more too because he's brave enough to do that as well as caring and smart to guess that i would hear about it

Don't want to hijack the thread.. but thank you very much. That gives me hope

[cuzgreeniscool]

Males : YOU GUYS are so dramatic. And when u take decisions, u just seem to not think about the consequences, right. Wtf? Why?

[helpMEout123]

is it a bad idea to loose your virginity to someone you know is not emotionally invested in you? do you know from personal experience, hear say, or opinion? please specify...

[Eternal]

Originally Posted by spongebobgreen

Males : YOU GUYS are so dramatic. And when u take decisions, u just seem to not think about the consequences, right. Wtf? Why?

I know I'm not a guy, but I just wanted to point out that sometimes they don't try to be dramatic. They try and keep things calm but in doing that can get a little crazy trying. Not all guys don't consider consequences though, they probably just think the decision they are making is right.

Originally Posted by helpMEout123

is it a bad idea to loose your virginity to someone you know is not emotionally invested in you? do you know from personal experience, hear say, or opinion? please specify...

This really depends on how you feel about it. Do you want the person you lose your virginity to to actually have feelings for you? Don't rush into things too fast and end up doing something you regret later, you can always wait and think about it.
I will say that my first time was with someone who didn't want to be in a committed relationship with me, only I didn't want to come to terms with that at the time. I wish that I had waited for it to be with someone special, but its in the past now.

[Jack Lowden]

Originally Posted by helpMEout123

is it a bad idea to loose your virginity to someone you know is not emotionally invested in you? do you know from personal experience, hear say, or opinion? please specify...

It depends on the person. It's completely up to you, but you definitely want to make sure you're ready & won't regret this later. I personally lost my virginity to a guy I was dating & (thought) I was in love with at the time & I don't regret it.

Originally Posted by spongebobgreen

Males : YOU GUYS are so dramatic. And when u take decisions, u just seem to not think about the consequences, right. Wtf? Why?

I think this can go for both guys & girls, not just guys. & This doesn't exactly make them dramatic either. It just depends on the person.

[Tyr.]

Originally Posted by spongebobgreen

Males : YOU GUYS are so dramatic. And when u take decisions, u just seem to not think about the consequences, right. Wtf? Why?

Because we're men, that's why

I once watched a female soldier stand outside the doorway to an enemy building and start a bitchfight over the best way to clear the inside of hostiles. Eventually one of our lads grabbed her by her vest and literally threw her out of the way, then went charging through the door to get the job done.

Complaining on a teenage support forum about "OMG BOYZ R SO DRAHMAHTIC!!" is a tad dramatic in itself. But I will forgive you for that, because I appreciate that it's a problem both genders face.

- Yogi

[Flavalicious]

Originally Posted by spongebobgreen

Males : YOU GUYS are so dramatic. And when u take decisions, u just seem to not think about the consequences, right. Wtf? Why?

I just think I should say something from my perspective.

This is kind of stereotyping all men in the world. Not all guys are like that, there are many guys out there who really do think before they do things. Everything just depends on the personality of the person and sometimes for some guys even if it may seems like they're doing things recklessly, it's just because they think that it's worth doing really.

And depends on the situation, I should admit that sometimes girls think and worry too much as I am myself like that, and from our perspective the guys just don't think and they're brainless but it's not like that really. It's like I can see every different small fishes in an aquarium and my fiance just see an aquarium with fishes

So really it all depends on the personality of the guy and situation he's facing.

[Janie]

How come everything is so simple for guys and yet so complex for girls?
How do guys know how to wind you up so easily?
How come boys do exactly the opposite of what you say?
And.... What annoys you most about girls as a group selectively?

Just Wondering?

[notwhoithinkiam]

Originally Posted by Janie

How come everything is so simple for guys and yet so complex for girls?
How do guys know how to wind you up so easily?
How come boys do exactly the opposite of what you say?
And.... What annoys you most about girls as a group selectively?

Just Wondering?

1hh I really wanna answer this one Guys keep things one track at a time while girls generally try to tackle everything at once, looking at the big picture (this is a generalization)
2:Guys generally are adventurous and will look for those spots that make you squirm, and since they usually arent thinking about doing it, they just explore without being all consious about it
3:Same reason girls do, just to generally be rebellous, sometimes just to not feel whipped
4: The fact that most of them act like they are listening but totally are not.

Questions:
Why do women feel the need to give mixed messages?

[Chloky13]

Do guys really expect girls to do the same thing as girls in pornos?

[Acheron]

Depends on what thing. Different girls do different things in different porn movies. It's important for everyone to remember, though, that porn sex and regular sex have different objectives. Porn sex looks good, regular sex feels good, so the acts and positions will be different (I mean, really, how often does anyone here do reverse cowgirl?).

[bitesize]

Originally Posted by Acheron

(I mean, really, how often does anyone here do reverse cowgirl?).

Quite frequently actually, considering. Boyfriend's a fan. :P

[Jas]

Originally Posted by Acheron

Depends on what thing. Different girls do different things in different porn movies. It's important for everyone to remember, though, that porn sex and regular sex have different objectives. Porn sex looks good, regular sex feels good, so the acts and positions will be different (I mean, really, how often does anyone here do reverse cowgirl?).

Just because you don't like it doesn't mean others don't.

[Acheron]

Originally Posted by Jas

Just because you don't like it doesn't mean others don't.

Pfft. I'm just saying that from watching porn, you could end up thinking that reverse cowgirl and doggy are the only positions anyone ever uses.

[Jas]

Fair enough. And versions of reverse cowgirl that are seriously killer on your arm/leg muscles, too.

[Pazozaki]

Originally Posted by sarahmm17

Answer: We like to win because guys get to do lots of stuff but girls never really feel in charge. The guys does all the big strenuous stuff and I myself just like to one up him mentally. You have to deal with it.

To Guys: What is the first thing you notice about a girl?

To me the first thing I really notice is the hair and clothing they wear, I myself think girls that have dyed hair and wear short sleeved tops with bracelets stuff like that are really attractive.

[Raining Glitter]

Originally Posted by notwhoithinkiam

Questions:
Why do women feel the need to give mixed messages?

It's less of a woman thing and more of a human thing. Both genders send mix signals all the time and there are numerous of reasons for it. Some people do it by accident and were just trying to be nice, some people do it because they have mixed feelings and aren't always sure on how they feel, some people do it because they are insecure/shy about showing their feelings, some people do it because they like the attention/negatively take our their insecurities out on others, blah blah ect ect ect. I could list all the numerous of possibilities all day long.

Basically, overall, it is very human to send mixed signals and it happens. If you are afraid you are sending mixed signals, just confront the person and be straight forward with them. If someone else is sending mixed signals, do the same, confront them and ask them how they feel. The best way to any healthy type of relationship (whether it's friendship or dating) is communications.

[alexjames]

Sorry for not answering a question, but please PM me if you want to know anything! But, how important are physical 'features' (such as large ''man's area'') and looks to a girl. Or can an ugly and 'small'' Guy but with a nice personality have a chance?

[Raining Glitter]

Originally Posted by alexjames

Sorry for not answering a question, but please PM me if you want to know anything! But, how important are physical 'features' (such as large ''man's area'') and looks to a girl. Or can an ugly and 'small'' Guy but with a nice personality have a chance?

You dont have to always answer questions, asking them alone is completely fine!

Okay so i must admit, I'm a virgin so my answer might not be as accurate. I've had friends who are sexually active say that good sex is important. Now, my personal opinion is that size doesn't matter. Last time I checked, there are other methods to make a girl happy in bed. The fact that a lot of girls don't even orgasim during sex (no matter what size) should help prove your size is fine. Now, there might be some picky girls out there, but they aren't worth being with anyway.

With the ugly part, I know you are being too hard on yourself. Give yourself more credit! And with personality, I'd say having good one will be your best shot. I know personally, I fall for my Guy friends and well I definitely fallen for guys who all are like opposites of each other. Although not every girl is like this, I know there are girls out there who will love you for your personality and find you even more handsome because of it. You just need to get yourself out on the market , be more confident, and be patient.

[Jack Lowden]

Originally Posted by notwhoithinkiam

Why do women feel the need to give mixed messages?

As Stacie said, not just girls do it. EVERYONE does it. I think some of it is that we just don't know what we want. We don't do it on purpose, we're just unsure.

Originally Posted by alexjames

But, how important are physical 'features' (such as large ''man's area'') and looks to a girl. Or can an ugly and 'small'' Guy but with a nice personality have a chance?

I think personality is the most important trait in a guy. Personally, looks aren't that important. If the guy is good looking, it's just a plus.