Male Advice Preferred: Sometimes it doesn't work...

[Wazabi]

I'm in kind of a hurry right now, I'll just quickly explain three different situations about my sex life with my girlfriend. A couple hours from now I'll give you some more information that might be useful to give me some advice or explanation.

1st: I was in a bunker bed (top one) with my girlfriend, and my best friend was in the bottom bed, as far as I knew, sleeping. In a room down the hall was my uncle and his wife, already asleep.

So, me and my girlfriend were making out, and things started getting more serious, we started taking our clothes off, we had 2 condomns next to us (We were both virgins and unexperienced), and I start fingering her. She starts getting very aroused and decides to open up one of the condomns, it was dark so I didn't realize it until it was too late: She had no idea about how you put on a condomn, she just took it and stretched it all the way. At this point I realize what she did and I get frustrated. (First problem here, when we're getting "sexual" and things go wrong I get frustrated very easily, I feel like the more primitive side of me is alot more present in those situations, which sometimes leads to more frustration) And loose my boner. From this point on we tried multiple times but it wouldn't go right, I couldn't get a boner! I tried to calm down and relax but it just wouldn't work, we wasted both our condomns that night. For the next days we tried a couple more times, but the worry of not being able to mantain my boner when it came to put on the condomn was keeping me from actually getting one.

I was very disappointed with myself but she was very comprehensive and didn't mind at all, we still had fun, but no sex.

2nd:

Couple weeks late we go out to dinner and a movie, I hadn't seen her for a week so we missed eachother alot. I go back to her place, we go to her bedroom (Her parents were in the room down the hall asleep), and we start passionately making out on her bed. Couple minutes later she tells me, grab a condomn, so I go to my wallet and take one, go back to the bed and ask her if she really wants to do it, she said yes. Things went really smooth, we started taking eachother's clothes off, I had an amazing boner, wasn't even worried about it, I put on the condomn and bam, there goes my virginity. We did it 3 more times in the next 2 days.

3rd:A week after she comes to my place, and we didn't have condomns so we were just making out and doing basically everything but coitus. Then my parents leave the house, but we had only 20 minutes, so I go to my parent's bedroom in search of condomns and I found two boxes full of them, took two and got back to it. I don't know what it was, I guess the stress, but I didn't have a very solid boner. We also lacked foreplay since we were in a hurry which probably didn't help. So I put on the condomn with my half-ass boner and she gets on top, but she doesn't manage to put it in, it just slips away. At this point I start getting very frustrated, and I can't get a boner. We tried later that day but it just didn't go well, I was stressed for many reasons: Worried I couldn't get a proper boner, my parents might walk in any time... Not the best situation to be in.


So, has this happened to any of you? Any tips on how to avoid these situations? How not to get frustrated and stressed to easily?

I'll probably update this topic later, and I'd like to thank you in advance if you do decide to help me.

Cheers.

[Ashleylovesyou]

I'm not really sure what to tell you, and I have no advice that may be helpful. But possibly try not t have sex, just to have sex. Have sex when you both are ready to have it, both being horny. You could also research different stress relieving activities. Or, depending on you age, talk to your doctor and see him he can get you anything for it, or if it will just pass. Good luck!

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

If you're distracted enough, it's normal to lose it. This has happened to my boyfriend. If we stop doing anything sexual for even a few minutes, he loses it. You just gotta get "warmed up" again.

[Harmony♥]

Normal. There isn't anything wrong with you or your girlfriend. When you become frustrated, it's pretty obvious you'll lose your erection since you're distracted. Don't let little things frustrate you. No one's sex life is going to be like it is in the movies where everything is perfect. Nothing is perfect, and believe me, these things will happen. It's happened to my boyfriend before, but neither of us get frustrated since it happens.

[Venenum]

Viagra! No just kidding.

You're completely like the most of us. The thought of our parents getting inside the room while we're at it certainly doesn't turn everyone on.