Advice or opinions?

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]Hey im 16 I’m pregnant and I’m scared, is gonna be a nightmare with my family my mom absolutely hates the guy I’m with my dad is an abusive narcissistic drg addict and my grandparents are really conservative so they are not gonna like it I need to tell the guy that he’s gonna be a father which is also stressing me out and I’m scared abt like the act of birth I can’t abort where I am[/size][/color][/font]

[Face Up.]

Hey,

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through so much right now. It's a lot to deal with, and I can understand being scared.

Is there anyone else at all you can stay with besides your parents or grandparents if things go south, such as an aunt, uncle, cousin, or even a friend? Even if you don't live with them, it can help to have at least one supportive person in your circle who you can turn to when things get difficult.

I'd also work very closely with your doctor to discuss things like what to expect during pregnancy and childbirth. Make a list of questions you would like to ask the doctor before you go in. You can even write them down so you don't forget to ask anything during your appointment. It's important that you get routine care during your pregnancy to make sure you and the baby are doing well. You can create a birth plan with your doctor or midwife based on what you want your birth story to look like based on what options are available in your area. For example, some people ask for an epidural to help with the pain while other people give birth without one. Some people plan a C-section from the start. Some people want a water birth (this isn't always available). Talking about what you are afraid of and what you want are good places to start. I know you said abortion is illegal where you are, so maybe if it's something you want to do you can discuss adoption. Of course, keeping the baby is also an option. It is up to you and what you think is best for you. You do have a bit of time to think things over. Maybe your doctor also knows of support groups for teen parents so you can have some additional support.

As far as your boyfriend, I'd pull him aside on a day when he is in a decent mood and be up front with him. Let him know that you have something important to tell him, and then say you found out you are pregnant. If you think he will react poorly it might help to have someone with you when you speak to him, such as his parents if they will handle things better than your own. I'd definitely try to tell him in person versus in a text message if at all possible, because it's more personal that way and you'll be able to see his reaction.

If you're in school, I'd also set up a meeting with your school guidance counselor or administrators to see how you can continue your education while you are pregnant or have just given birth.

I know things are scary, but I truly hope they work out for you.

Take care,
Dez

[Dude111]

I hope your parents are very loving and supportive when they find out

I hope the boy stays with ya!!


Peace and love to you!!