cutting for attention...

[xxprincessxx]

i mean it's not like i go around and show everybody and i always try to hide it...but i wanted to get help with it...and nobody is taking me seriously. so i really just want to cut both of my arms to pieces and show the one person i've been talking to about it. just so he'll take me seriously...and i know that it's probably not right. but i just want help and nobody is listening. and i've already cut on and off the past couple of days because im sick of the pain...idk what i should do.! :[

[Bishpot]

Though I hate to admit it, I first started cutting to get the attention of a guy I liked... but then it actually started to take hold and I wasn't doing it for that reason anymore but because I was addicted to it, so try and stop before it gets worse. And showing them that you hurt yourself will just hurt them too, I know how you feel.

[xxprincessxx]

The thing is I've been cutting for the past 5 years of my life and I'm sick of it, and the one time I actually want help, nobody is helping me. I just don't know what to do, I'm already addicted to it. I just feel like if I cut more than I usually do, then maybe he'll notice that I need help.!

[Bishpot]

Does he know about the cutting?

[CrimsonTippedPetals]

If you are sick of cutting, then just don't do it. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh. You should find someone near you to tell your problems to, and ask if they can help you. There is a help-line here on the site that can help you think through things. I am here for you if you need to talk.

I have cut before and I decided it was wrong and wasn't worth the pain it brought me or anyone near me. I suggest not to cut, because in the long run, you will only look back at the scars and feel regret for doing so.

[Batman.]

Hey,

I know what you're saying. You're not doing it like, for attention, but as a cry for help.

Have you ever just asked your friend for help? Like, flat-out asked? I built up the courage to tell my one friend (who is also an ex) about some problems I've kept quiet, and well, he actually wasn't really surprised. And well, he's been more supportive than I would've expected.

[Storyteller.]

Hey there.

I'll tell you what I've found, personally. Sometimes I thought my friends weren't helping because they didn't care, or because they didn't want to. But in reality, it was because they didn't know I needed help. So I got the best support when I was upfront about the fact that I was struggling.

Maybe the same thing would work for you? I know at times we're probably all tempted to do some grand gesture, whether creative, destructive, or otherwise, just to let people know we need help, but at the end of the day, the best way to get help is to just ask for it.

Is there anyone else you can talk to about this? Like a trusted adult, counsellor, somebody like that?

Take care, and good luck.

[Gingerbread Latte]

Well, you could bring it up to your friend straight out like Julz said but maybe it'd be more beneficial to seek professional help because even if you do tell your friend, I'm sure he'd be supportive but there's only so much he can do to help you get better.

Also, I definitely know how you feel, I've felt like this before so don't feel bad. If you ever need to talk then feel free to PM me.

[actingpassion123]

Hey there. I totally understand what you are saying. Sometimes it feels easier to communicate through actions instead of words. Please don't cut though. I would suggest looking up a list of "feeling" words, and writing down all the ones that you relate to. You can then just read this list to the person, and he'll have a better understanding of what's going on.

Good luck, and PM me anytime

[Madeleine.Claire]

If no one will help you sometimes what you have to do is help yourself. Take control, try to get rid of the things that you hurt yourself with, when you feel the need to remove yourself from a bad situation or get somewhere that makes it harder to hurt yourself. Go talk to someone else about it. You can always talk to me or a lot of other people on here. I just told my mom and dad the other night about my cutting and now their going to take me to someone to talk about it and I'm really happy. I want you to have someone that you can confide in. I get what oyu mean about doing it for attention, but I don't think that that's all that it is. It's a cry for help not attention. If you really want to stop you can take it into your own hands, there are ways