Parents

[EmoGirl1]

No matter how much I try to talk to my parents about things they don't listen, they shove me away and tell me to get over myself. I have nobody to confide in and I hate the way they treat me. I don't get treat as part of the family, they say I am a liar and attention seeker, I don't lie and I certainly don't seek attention. I just want to be able to talk to them about things but I guess I can't. I don't know what I did to deserve to be treat like this? I don't know if I did something wrong but they are always putting me down and saying they aren't proud of me, that I am useless and going to get nowhere in life.

[Hiraeth.]

Hi, thanks for reaching out! I'm sorry to hear your family is treating you badly. It's not right they're doing this, and I think you need to prioritize your mental well being over your family at this point in time. If you've already tried speaking to them, perhaps move your focus to a trusted adult in the community, or a counselor, or a teacher. Let them know how you're feeling and maybe this person can be the mediator between you and your family.

Wishing you the best of luck!

[Arabesque- golfing girl.]

Hi, I'm sorry about how you are feeling about what is going on at your house. Would you be able to try writing them a letter on everything that you are going through or text them and ask if you can all sit down together and talk about what is going on. Sometimes our parents get busy with working and they maynot see that we need help with something. I hope that you will be okay soon and they can help you.

[Matthew851]

Feel free to message me for someone to talk to!

I agree with Emmie Writting a letter is something they can read on their own time that way they can provide their full attention to it.

[Astro04]

Hello!
If you can't talk to them, write to them! You should try everything possible for that.

[Chai.]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time with your parents. Feeling unheard and unsupported by your family can be incredibly hurtful and raise a lot of questions internally. While wanting to understand why this is happening, is part of the journey, I do agree with what has been said above. Prioritizing your mental well being, is an absolute must in such situations.

It's important to have someone to confide in, even if it's not your parents. This could be a trusted friend, a teacher, a counselor, or a mentor who can offer you a listening ear and guidance. If you have family around and have any adult you trust, you could try reaching out to them. While they could play the role of a mediator between you and your family, they can also be a much needed support system for you.

Sometimes writing down your feelings can help, even if you don't share it with anyone. Journaling can be a way to process your emotions and gain clarity on how you feel and what you need. If this is something you haven't tried before, I highly recommend giving it a go and seeing if it works for you.

If conversations with your parents consistently lead to hurtful remarks and negativity, it might be necessary to set boundaries. You can calmly let them know how their words affect you and that you need their support and understanding. This should be the case for everyone, not just your parents. It is absolutely unfair to you to have to listen to remarks and comments which affect your mental health and setting boundaries will really help with that.

The situation you have mentioned, I feel might be overwhelming and seeking professional help might help cope with it in a better manner. It will provide you with strategies to manage difficult family dynamics while also ensuring you take care of your own mental health.

Remember to take care of yourself. Engage in activities that make you happy, whether it's hobbies, exercise, or spending time with supportive friends. Wishing you the very best!