Female Advice Preferred: Bullied.

[*MusicIsMyLife*]

I am bullied everyday at school by my friends. They call me really mean names like they say that I am a loser, stupid, ugly, and that I have know friends. They also push me around and they threaten me by saying that if I tell anyone what they said then they will hurt me. I didn't do anything to deserve this. So now I am left with no friends.

[Pixel'd]

Hey there Rebecca, it looks like you realize that they aren't true friends to you. As hard as it seems, you have to take a few steps back. I can't say that I've been in your situation, but I've played the "mean girls" role - sadly. If you back off from those girls, take it slow and don't seem so desperate people will invite you to their circles. You should explore friendships with people that you would have never considered before, they always seem to be inviting. As for the the threatning aspect, you should talk to a guidance counselor or a respected adult, because no one should feel unsafe.

[Kitty.]

Hey there Rebecca. I know exactly how you feel hun. You need to talk to a trusted adult about all of this. They can help you and lead you in the right direction

PM me anytime

[gcastillo2]

You need to tell someone about this preferably an adult. Those girls are not your true friends true friends never do that. Hope all things work out, tell someone. If you ever need someone to talk to i'm here.

[EmJosephine]

Obviously these girls aren't your real friends if they treat you like that. I'd say stop hanging out with them & stop talking to them.

[BullyPreventionScheme]

huh? I thought i posted here... must have been something else.
I've had this from "friends" before, i just left them. (I think thats what they wanted me to do but anyway) But before you leave them, you might want to get some revenge.
Report them anyway cause if they're threatening you so you don't report them, it means they're scared of it. Its all tough talk because when you do they won't try it again, they think you'll report them again.

[WillO'Wisp]

Aww, I'm sorry you have to go through this. I understand how it feels, I've gone through it myself. But I finally snapped and punched one of them, I don't recommend you do that. lol
Just remember everything they say to you isn't true, you are a strong beautiful person so don't what anyone has to say bring you down. Shut them out and ignore them, because when you ignore them, they know they aren't bothering you anymore and so they've lost their power over you. Therefore, the fun in it for them is gone and they go bug someone else and leave you alone.
As for friends, you will find some good friends eventually, just be patient and stay strong!

[vval365]

Hi Rebecca,
I am very sorry you have to go through this.
My advice would just be to tell someone, you might be scared that they'll do something to you but in reality you'll be saving yourself.
If you wanna chat, don't hesitate to contact me!
-Valerie

[razors_and_rosary]

Hey, Rebecca. Stay strong, ok?

It's good you've taken the biggest step, and accepted these people aren't your real friends. It's hard to do that, and it's even harder to stop thinking of them in that way. I've been in the same situation as you, and I never got past this stage. So, well done.

The fact is, friends don't hurt friends. And though you might feel alone, as long as you can distance yourselves from the bullies, it's definitely better than putting up with it. See if you can start conversations with other people, those that seem friendly, that you think you might get along with. Bullies tend to back off when you have allies with you, so the insults should stop. It will be a slower process, but it's one worth doing, and your real friends will support you too. It'll make this easier to bear.

About the threatening: don't listen. Pay absolutely no heed to anything they say they will do to you. If you don't take action they will never stop, and if they never stop you will never be free. You can't live like this.
Tell someone who cares about you, like your form tutor, a teacher you connect with, a guardian that could contact the school. Action will be taken, and you will also not be alone. If staff at school know about the bullying, they will be watching out for it, and you'll be looked after.

Be patient with making new friends, tell someone you trust to help you, and don't let their words hurt you. If you can cast off their insults, then you have the power. Even if it's not that easy, which it rarely is, at least don't let them see they hurt you. You are stronger than them, and you will always be stronger than them.

Good luck, and take care. PM me if you feel the need.
Rosary xx