Questions for the opposite sex

[IH8U2]

Would you go out with a person with absolutely no friends and little social skills who dresses bland, isn't interested in much things and isn't very intelligent?

[firecracker]

Originally Posted by Delivery

Would you go out with a person with absolutely no friends and little social skills who dresses bland, isn't interested in much things and isn't very intelligent?

The 'no friends' thing doesn't bother me. I've gone through periods where I don't have any either. I don't really think that is a automatic negative. The lack of social skills doesn't bother me, either. But if you're not interested in much, that's going to be kind of boring. We don't have to be interested in all the same things, but I would want someone who has some hobbies or something.

[Melody Pond]

Originally Posted by Double X

All anniversaries are annoying, except first date by the year.

I am a girl and I find this annoying too.
Me and my boyfriend only really do anything on year and 6 month "anniversaries". Even then we don't do cards or presents. We just go out somewhere nicer than the normal.

We both agree that because we aren't married it isn't such a big deal

[IH8U2]

Originally Posted by Bethany

The 'no friends' thing doesn't bother me. I've gone through periods where I don't have any either. I don't really think that is a automatic negative. The lack of social skills doesn't bother me, either. But if you're not interested in much, that's going to be kind of boring. We don't have to be interested in all the same things, but I would want someone who has some hobbies or something.

Yeah, that's true. How about the guy takes you out to a movie or dinner that you would both like?

[firecracker]

Originally Posted by Delivery

Yeah, that's true. How about the guy takes you out to a movie or dinner that you would both like?

That would be fine, and a good way to start. I was actually thinking more in terms of talking. What does one talk about if they aren't interested in much? You run out of generic conversation and activites after a while.

[failuretosucceed]

Question for the guys:

When you and your guy friends are hanging out, do you ever talk about your girlfriends? And in what manner do you talk about them?

Just wondering because I am curious if my bf talks about me to his friends!

[B.O.T.E]

Originally Posted by failuretosucceed

Question for the guys:

When you and your guy friends are hanging out, do you ever talk about your girlfriends? And in what manner do you talk about them?

Just wondering because I am curious if my bf talks about me to his friends!

Im not going to lie, most of the time I just complain about her, my friends give good advice and my girlfriend can really suck at being a girlfriend, so I pretty much just complain about her

[Rhop101]

Originally Posted by failuretosucceed

Question for the guys:

When you and your guy friends are hanging out, do you ever talk about your girlfriends? And in what manner do you talk about them?

Just wondering because I am curious if my bf talks about me to his friends!

I don't usually talk about my girlfriend hardly at all with my guy friends. I'm with my guys friends to have a good time with my guy friends not talk about my girlfriend

[Bookthief]

This one is for girls:

Does it matter more about looks to you then the guy himself? Would you date a guy on a "lower level" than you?

[Piiink]

To girls:
I like this girl and would like to gift her jewlery for her birthday. Not that I would want to "buy her" or impress her. Just something that would last long and look nice.

She showd up always when Im having party with someone she doesnt know about. Always picks up the phone etc. I talked her about it and she hinted she likes me but she wants cople weeks and after that she can be with me. However in cople weeks theres her birthday aswell and I really hope expensive gift wont leave her impression that Im trying to buy her or show off.

Would you get scared away if gift you get for your birthday is way too expensive? I mean 200 - 300$ ? Counting that you never yet dated or even kissed person who is gifting it.

[Brandon]

When you and your guy friends are hanging out, do you ever talk about your girlfriends? And in what manner do you talk about them?

Just wondering because I am curious if my bf talks about me to his friends!

Of course! But it's not always a bad thing. Guys can talk about anything with other guys.

[OohLaLa]

Originally Posted by Piiink

To girls:
I like this girl and would like to gift her jewlery for her birthday. Not that I would want to "buy her" or impress her. Just something that would last long and look nice.

She showd up always when Im having party with someone she doesnt know about. Always picks up the phone etc. I talked her about it and she hinted she likes me but she wants cople weeks and after that she can be with me. However in cople weeks theres her birthday aswell and I really hope expensive gift wont leave her impression that Im trying to buy her or show off.

Would you get scared away if gift you get for your birthday is way too expensive? I mean 200 - 300$ ? Counting that you never yet dated or even kissed person who is gifting it.

Hmm... I would be a little freaked out if we hadn't even been going out, or even kissed.
But I'd think it was cute.
However, if I recieved a present that expensice, I'd kinda feel like I would owe that person, like I'd hafta hang out with them and stuff else I'd feel bad.

[Elizabeth]

To girls:
I like this girl and would like to gift her jewlery for her birthday. Not that I would want to "buy her" or impress her. Just something that would last long and look nice.

She showd up always when Im having party with someone she doesnt know about. Always picks up the phone etc. I talked her about it and she hinted she likes me but she wants cople weeks and after that she can be with me. However in cople weeks theres her birthday aswell and I really hope expensive gift wont leave her impression that Im trying to buy her or show off.

Would you get scared away if gift you get for your birthday is way too expensive? I mean 200 - 300$ ? Counting that you never yet dated or even kissed person who is gifting it

I personally would like jewerly, but I think that if it was under a $100 I would be fine with it too. Maybe save the more expensive stuff until you are going out.

[missinyou]

Originally Posted by Bookthief

This one is for girls:

Does it matter more about looks to you then the guy himself? Would you date a guy on a "lower level" than you?

It doesn't really matter to me. I think it is more about personality.

[megarah]

For the guys, how important are looks?

[Jake]

Originally Posted by megarah

For the guys, how important are looks?

Looks don't really mean much beyond initial attraction. Once you get to know someone, assuming the two of you DO have a connection you tend to look beyond how a person looks as it doesn't really matter.

Looks don't HAVE to be the reason for initial attraction though! There's a girl in one of my classes who i don't find particularily attractive but we have similar interests and got talking randomly one day after i heard her say something in a group conversation and I had considered asking her out before I found out she had a boyfriend.

[Double X]

Originally Posted by megarah

For the guys, how important are looks?

There are many 'hot' girls that I wouldn't ever date. It can be a small physical attraction, like my crush right now is short and really petite. And then once I started talking to her, she was so incredibly intelligent and passionate (and lazy - win) that I would really like to start something. She is not drop dead gorgeous, but right now I would pick her over anyone else I know.

[Rhop101]

Originally Posted by megarah

For the guys, how important are looks?

I think they do matter a little bit but mental is more important. My girlfriend told me a week or two ago she wants to get plastic surgery in a few years because her face is uneven, but i really don't see it unless i try to really hard i never noticed it and I think she's beautiful the way she is I just worry that plastic surgery will change who she is sometimes

I agree with what the others have said in that some of the most physically beautiful people I know waste their lives and don't get anywhere in life.

To sum it up I do find my girlfriend both physically and mentally attractive, but more toward mental attraction.

[Catsrmything]

i have no idea what to get my bf for Christmas everyone says cologne but i want to do something a little more original...

So what would be a good present for a guy? What would you want your girlfriend to get you?

[B.O.T.E]

Originally Posted by Catsrmything

i have no idea what to get my bf for Christmas everyone says cologne but i want to do something a little more original...

So what would be a good present for a guy? What would you want your girlfriend to get you?

If you have been dating for a while, a mix tape would be nice. One with all of the songs that remind you of him! Make him a scrap book of all the things you've done. Make him a hand made card.

I hope these ideas get your brain flowing!

[ComplexSimplicity]

Originally Posted by Bookthief

This one is for girls:

Does it matter more about looks to you then the guy himself? Would you date a guy on a "lower level" than you?

I'm not gonna lie. Looks do matter to an extent but they aren't everything. This is something people tend to realize as they get older. I know in highschool and middle school it's all about looks and once you get to college people start to realize there are more important factors in choosing a partner.

I've found myself being attracted to guys that I initially wasn't based on physical appearance, but their personality captured me and in turn they become more attractive to me. I've also lost interest in guys who at first I was very attracted to physically but because of their horrible attitude, I lost interest.

[Double X]

Um, so there is this girl that I am about to ask out within the week and we are good-ish friends...and she is in the spanish class right after me. Is it creepy if I wrote something like "[her name]! enjoy spanish" on a sticky note and put it on the chair that she is going to sit in?

It sounds cute to me, but I feel like I just shouldn't risk it.

[Potato]

Originally Posted by Double X

Um, so there is this girl that I am about to ask out within the week and we are good-ish friends...and she is in the spanish class right after me. Is it creepy if I wrote something like "[her name]! enjoy spanish" on a sticky note and put it on the chair that she is going to sit in?

It sounds cute to me, but I feel like I just shouldn't risk it.

I think it sounds cute, but I guess it all depends on how good friends you are (and of course, her feelings for you - and the type of girl she is). But if it feels natural, you should definitely go for it! Take a chance


QUESTION FOR GUYS:
If you're friends with a girl, but you didn't get to see her that often, what would be signs of you liking her?

[Double X]

Originally Posted by Potato

I think it sounds cute, but I guess it all depends on how good friends you are (and of course, her feelings for you - and the type of girl she is). But if it feels natural, you should definitely go for it! Take a chance


QUESTION FOR GUYS:
If you're friends with a girl, but you didn't get to see her that often, what would be signs of you liking her?

Keeping in contact through texts, etc., and also saying that how saying how you two need to hang out or he misses you. I can't think of much else I would do.

and thanks for the answer, we walk really close and we always try to talk to each other, so I'm hoping it's natural

[Piiink]

Originally Posted by Potato

If you're friends with a girl, but you didn't get to see her that often, what would be signs of you liking her?

I agree with previous post. If she shows shes interest in no matter way like calling or meet up.

[megarah]

Originally Posted by Double X

Um, so there is this girl that I am about to ask out within the week and we are good-ish friends...and she is in the spanish class right after me. Is it creepy if I wrote something like "[her name]! enjoy spanish" on a sticky note and put it on the chair that she is going to sit in?

It sounds cute to me, but I feel like I just shouldn't risk it.

There's nothing wrong with that! It sounds very cute.
I wouldn't think it was weird if my guy friend did that.

[ShAtTerEd HeaRt]

well for me yeah i think looks do matter to a extent too becuz i mean i like my old boyfriend, i think u do have to have some attraction for looks of course or why wud u like em in that way anyway? but it just depends on the person, some people dont even like their bf or gf but they like theyre personality and the same interests and stuff.
but also too, really in my opinion i think the only way a person will ever really find the right person (what i mean is have a better chance of finding the right person)

is being yourself,
looking like how u wud want to look like.
dont dress up as something your not!
that way, youll know that they have found attraction to u for how u really look
and really are in a way.

but at the same time yes i do love my boyfriend i used to date TO DEATH,
but i also like him for who he really is too.
hes funny, he can be sweet, hes cool and fun to be around.
we have some of the same interests, and its easy for us to talk and gett along with.
i get closer and closer to him as a get to know him more and more and more.
so yes look r important to an extent but really i think just them loving u for your personatliy and stuff is way beyond important. ITS REALLY IMPORTANT. BE YOURSELF.

[ShAtTerEd HeaRt]

okay question to the guys:

why is it that guys can be sooooooooooooo sweet 1 minute and
rude the next???
like my old boyfriend was really sweet to me at first but then for no reason
when he was trying to talk to somebody and i was finishing up what i was saying he told me to shut up. and it wasnt in a casual way it was in a serious way like "jocelynn. SHUT.UP.

even though guys r like is that just theyre way of dealing with love and just there way of love or what????
i mean when you tell somebody to shut up what does it mean honestly?

[Ryan1]

Originally Posted by ShAtTerEd HeaRt

okay question to the guys:

why is it that guys can be sooooooooooooo sweet 1 minute and
rude the next???
like my old boyfriend was really sweet to me at first but then for no reason
when he was trying to talk to somebody and i was finishing up what i was saying he told me to shut up. and it wasnt in a casual way it was in a serious way like "jocelynn. SHUT.UP.

even though guys r like is that just theyre way of dealing with love and just there way of love or what????
i mean when you tell somebody to shut up what does it mean honestly?

Well depending on what guy you’re dealing with it can change, some guys are just naturally more aggressive and get angry a little more easily, while others are soft spoken and nothing can get under their skin.

Here’s a little thing my ex girlfriend did to me that kind of got under my skin.

She’d call me everyday for no reason, and expect that I would just stop my day and strike up a conversation, however she knew that I worked and was extremely busy being on the jobsite, Yet she still continued to call me and was upset when I said I had to go.

Like Hello, I’m getting paid by the hour my boss would shit if he saw me on the phone with my girlfriend, you see how little things can lead up to a bigger issue?

I guess girls want the interaction where as guys could careless. Perhaps you’ve just been doing something not necessarily wrong but something that triggers him. Talking to much can often times ‘piss’ guys off. I know how that sounds but I'm just spilling the truth.

Guys are nice when they either want something or you’ve got them whiped. Most men don’t go around looking to be ‘nice’ we are either neutral horny or pissed off. That’s just the way it is.

Come to think about it any guy that just out right tells you to shut up is not someone you want to be with. Because that's not the way a true man should treat his girlfriend regardless of how mad he is.

[Zyzz]

question for the ladies.
im doing a survey to understand teenage girls. so ill just ask a few questions
What are your hobbies?
what is your favorite TV show?
what are your favorite bands?
What is your favorite food?
On any given day what are 3 things that go through your head?
And what do you look for in a partner?

[Elizabeth]

What are your hobbies?
Swim, playing Wii, and TH
what is your favorite TV show?
Glee and Desprate Housewives
what are your favorite bands?
Mayday Parade, All Time Low, The Fray
What is your favorite food?
Pumpkin
On any given day what are 3 things that go through your head?
Index cards, swim, and my back
And what do you look for in a partner?
Looks. And if he is funny. I hate it when guys are so serious.

[Rossiu]

Originally Posted by ShAtTerEd HeaRt

okay question to the guys:

why is it that guys can be sooooooooooooo sweet 1 minute and
rude the next???
like my old boyfriend was really sweet to me at first but then for no reason
when he was trying to talk to somebody and i was finishing up what i was saying he told me to shut up. and it wasnt in a casual way it was in a serious way like "jocelynn. SHUT.UP.

even though guys r like is that just theyre way of dealing with love and just there way of love or what????
i mean when you tell somebody to shut up what does it mean honestly?

Honestly I have no idea, I couldn't imagine doing that to a girl I liked and saw myself having a future with so maybe he wasn't really that serious about the relationship?

Now my question to kind of bounce off of what I saw earlier about how a guy would show signs.

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Say you know a guy but see him on rare occasions and whenever you do you tend to say something about how you should get together some time and do something or you send the occasional texts back and forth but about general things like classes and the one time you did end up getting together for dinner at a little diner (yea, one of those classic omg its so good but so unhealthy traditional diners) and talk for a good hour after both of you are done. When asked if you are bored because you had been there for so long you reply "not at all, you don't know me".

When you leave you head to your your (the girls) apartment and show him where it is (because it had come up in conversation on occasion before) and in the end have an awkward conversation about how you were wasted the night before puking in your bathroom for 2 hours hungover at 8am that morning. I ended up standing by the door in semi-complete awe of what she said and said " Its getting late I think I might head out" or something like that and bailed.

We didn't speak for months and you avoid the paths that we usually saw each other to and from classes but the next time we speak you say "its been a long time we should get together some time". Actually it was a text but I can't remember what started the conversation.

What in the hell is going through your head?

might be a little long for this thread but I don't feel like a one post response deserves its own thread.

[Elizabeth]

^^ John.
I think that I would be a little embarrassed by what I had said, because it sounds like she likes you. After a while, I would try and maybe see if I could give it another shot, so maybe she wants to see if that realtionship to work.

[JayP23]

For the ladies..

What would be a perfect way for a potential date to approach you?

[Nymous]

Well, in my case, it would be the best just to ask it. Ask something like: 'do you want to go to the cinema next friday evening'. Don't run around the bush, a lot of girls don't appreciate that. It looks like you're unsure and it takes too much of her time. If she can't go out with you because she has somethingelse to do, don't take it personally. Maybe it will be good for another time.

I have a question for boys: is it good to give subtile hints? How subtile can they be?

[zombie888]

Subtlety is a complicated task for a lot of people. Subtle hints ARE good if you can truly make them subtle. I've been the victim of several girls who would try to be subtle, but would end up flirting their way into "skank-dom." Some would even try to give signals, but kept them too subtle, so it would take a while before I realized what they were attempting to do. By that point, it was too late.

Anyway, subtle hints will certainly lead the guy on, but make sure that he is interpreting them correctly before you lay it on him any harder, because it seems to be a problem for some girls that if a guy isn't interested, she will start flirting more and making it much worse.

Just make sure to give these subtle hints to one man at a time as well. If one catches you flirting with another, he may think you are not really interested.

So, I have a question for girls, why do you wish you could find a guy LIKE me (and other guys)? What is so wrong with me that we click on a level that no other man could and I can only be a friend?

[Rhiannax3]

Originally Posted by zombie888

So, I have a question for girls, why do you wish you could find a guy LIKE me (and other guys)? What is so wrong with me that we click on a level that no other man could and I can only be a friend?

Yeah that is sort of silly... The only circumstances I can think of where I might say that were if the guy was already in a relationship, or if I just didn't find them attractive, but they're a still really great person...

But I still wouldn't say that cos I don't know, seems a bit unfair.. :/

Question for the guys, although it relates to girls too: At what age do you think you stop being too shy to ask a girl or guy out yourself and get your friends to do it?

[primus diddy]

It's different for everyone. I've never been an "asking out" kind of guy in first place. I would have to guess around fifteen or sixteen though.

For girls: See Zombie888's post :P

[TigerTank77]

SO lets say you meet a guy. You both immediately hit it off. Personalities are an extreme match, both extremely attracted to each other

But he lives 3 hours away. He has a car, and you will soon.

Would you enter a relationship with him?

[obelus]

Sometimes I seriously wonder why *most* guys can't think with their heads. The one with the brain in it. >.>
Any of you have an explanation for that?