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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
March 25th 2009, 09:18 PM
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Originally Posted by freelancertex78
Guys - say you've had a crush on a girl at your school since pretty much the moment you met her. One day, months later, you end up having a brief romance with her. It lasts two days, but you decide to stay as friends with her because both you and she are about to go to college and there's not much time in school left. How would you feel/react to her once you saw her again in school?
Since it was a mutual agreement, there should be no awkwardness, right? In theory, that is. I would just casually say hi - see where that takes you and how she reacts. Just because you only have a few months left before you go to college it doesn't mean that you can't have fun times together.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
March 27th 2009, 12:19 AM
Guys:
When you tell a girl that you like her a lot, but you have soo much going on in your life that you can't be in a relationship with her. If you tell her you really want to, but you can't. That you rarely ever try getting involved in a relationship and that it's hard for you to say.
Is it a nice way of saying you're not interested? or could it be the truth?
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
March 27th 2009, 12:23 AM
I said that once and was being honest. He could be saying he's not interested though. I think if he really liked you he might keep in touch and hang out with you a lot though.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
March 27th 2009, 12:35 AM
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Originally Posted by anarchy_07
Guys:
When you tell a girl that you like her a lot, but you have soo much going on in your life that you can't be in a relationship with her. If you tell her you really want to, but you can't. That you rarely ever try getting involved in a relationship and that it's hard for you to say.
Is it a nice way of saying you're not interested? or could it be the truth?
I'm not a guy, but as someone who's said this before and had it said to her, I would trust what he's telling you. Besides, what purpose is doubting it going to serve, really, other than potentially damaging any opportunity at a relationship you may have in the future. Has he given you any reason not to trust him? Or any reason to feel as though he's not being sincere? If not, honour what he's said, and try not to get too paranoid about it. Sure, there's a chance he's not interested, but there's also the chance he's telling you the truth. And seeing as banking on the first is a huge gamble with the latter, I'd rather try trusting the latter and be proved wrong than never have a chance at it being proved right because I doubted him from the get-go.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
March 31st 2009, 11:32 PM
Do girls like to get guys fight over someone/something? eg you.
I mean they like to observe how childish they can be or how far would they go for you when they are near you?
For example: You tell the guy that you really have big crush over another guy (not him) and keep on putting that under his nose to get him jealous. However you actually like him but want to see what is he going to do about it?
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 1st 2009, 03:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Boy
Do girls like to get guys fight over someone/something? eg you.
I mean they like to observe how childish they can be or how far would they go for you when they are near you?
For example: You tell the guy that you really have big crush over another guy (not him) and keep on putting that under his nose to get him jealous. However you actually like him but want to see what is he going to do about it?
Or would that be a way to get him make the move?
I did this with my girlfriend.
Before we were dating, i told her I liked someone else even though I liked her. We are together now, but it created a huge mess.
So if you like someone, juts tell them, jealousy will only create a problem.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 3rd 2009, 04:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Boy
Just telling didnt work last time why should it now? - If you havent lived it through by acctually doing it then I cant see light in that.
Pardon me if I'm misunderstanding something here.
Say I'm the girl and I'm wanting to rub the face of the boy I like in the fact I'm "going after" another guy. The boy I like tried "just telling" me he liked me and that didn't work? Then I would say I'd have to reconsider my feelings for the boy I like. If I really liked the boy, then his up and telling me would dismiss the need to make him jealous.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 3rd 2009, 05:27 AM
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Originally Posted by sphynx
Pardon me if I'm misunderstanding something here.
Say I'm the girl and I'm wanting to rub the face of the boy I like in the fact I'm "going after" another guy. The boy I like tried "just telling" me he liked me and that didn't work? Then I would say I'd have to reconsider my feelings for the boy I like. If I really liked the boy, then his up and telling me would dismiss the need to make him jealous.
xo Claire
That kinda was reverse situation. After telling I like her she went pretending shes dating with one of my very good friends. How I knew they were pretending was when the kissing part was then her eyes were open and she looked at me. They only kissed when I was around. (another friend told me). Also I knew both of them too well to fall for it. Two weeks later they pretended to split up. After that shes been telling me she likes that guy and then goes she likes another guy. (meybe a test to see if Im intrested still somehow? like would tell Im not when I would start talking about that topic? mostly I just listen these topics, they hurt but I dont talk about them any further with her. Since I feel these stories are "made up" and I also dont want to keep on hurting myself with that topic.)
So currently I see no point of telling her that again. Only way would go for the kiss but shes not around unless I call. If I call I probably wont come up with much of a good idea. However I could be creative and make up something
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 8th 2009, 07:01 PM
Girls:
Can your feelings for someone change, negatively or positively overnight? Like for someone who you aren't in a relationship with for whatever reason? Say a good friend.
Like.. one day you can't get them out of your head and you're telling them you love them, then say.. you see this new person who you are attracted to or something, then you're just like meh about the other person..
Has it happened to you before? Would the "meh" behavior just be related to a bad day or something, or maybe nervousness? Or would it be just loss of interest for whatever reason?
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 8th 2009, 07:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Jake
Girls:
Can your feelings for someone change, negatively or positively overnight? Like for someone who you aren't in a relationship with for whatever reason? Say a good friend.
Like.. one day you can't get them out of your head and you're telling them you love them, then say.. you see this new person who you are attracted to or something, then you're just like meh about the other person..
Has it happened to you before? Would the "meh" behavior just be related to a bad day or something, or maybe nervousness? Or would it be just loss of interest for whatever reason?
Girls really do confuse me :\
I've never had anything that extreme happen. Though I did like this guy for like 1 year 1/2 and all the sudden I just stopped liking him. Maybe not overnight, but pretty quickly. And I didn't like any1 for maybe a few weeks before my Tyler came along
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 10th 2009, 04:04 AM
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Originally Posted by Jake
Girls:
Can your feelings for someone change, negatively or positively overnight? Like for someone who you aren't in a relationship with for whatever reason? Say a good friend.
Like.. one day you can't get them out of your head and you're telling them you love them, then say.. you see this new person who you are attracted to or something, then you're just like meh about the other person..
Has it happened to you before? Would the "meh" behavior just be related to a bad day or something, or maybe nervousness? Or would it be just loss of interest for whatever reason?
Girls really do confuse me :\
Yes, I think this has happened to me before. The whole "meh" behavior usually has something to do with something that person said or did rather than my attraction to another person, though that has affected it before as well. I don't know, my feelings are confusing. It's okay for you to be confused, too. We don't make much sense.
Guys: Say you're dating a girl you're in love with and you tell her she's beautiful, but she's actually unattractive (in her opinion anyways). Are you doing this because you feel the need to raise her self-esteem? Or do you really think she's attractive? Or is this a white lie to save your ass?
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 10th 2009, 08:59 AM
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Originally Posted by GroovyDoodle
Guys: Say you're dating a girl you're in love with and you tell her she's beautiful, but she's actually unattractive (in her opinion anyways). Are you doing this because you feel the need to raise her self-esteem? Or do you really think she's attractive? Or is this a white lie to save your ass?
I'll answer as a woman but from a male friend's perspective... and then I'll answer as a woman from my perspective about a man who's insecure in the same way.
If he says you're beautiful, he means you're beautiful. If he's in love with you, he's in love with you, inside and out, and there really shouldn't be any doubt about it. He's not telling you to raise your self-esteem and he's not telling you to "save his ass."
Being said, I pretty much agree with him. A lot of people are insecure about their appearance, and a lot of people worry about whether or not others, especially their significant others, find them attractive, but have you ever been on the other end of things? I have a friend who I happen to find quite handsome, but he is incredibly insecure and generally dismisses my compliments. Most of the time, he doesn't take them for being true or he claims they're from a biased perspective. What he doesn't see is that I wouldn't say it if I didn't think it, especially since he's not even prompting my remarks.
My point is, just because you can't see it, it doesn't mean he can't, either.
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call me Superman
If I’m alive and well, will you be
There holding my hand
I’ll keep you by my side
With my superhuman might...
Kryptonite"
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 15th 2009, 06:42 AM
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Originally Posted by sw33t&sourcandii
why do you {guys} say you will call, but never do?
I'd assume, if they just plain out didn't contact you even though they said they would; its because like someone else said, its easier than telling someone you're not interested in them..
With me, if I'm not interested in someone.. I won't show interest, so it wouldn't get to that point. Usually if i say I'll call and I don't, It would be because i was busy and couldn't. Usually i would apologize though, so i don't know if that's any use to you :\
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 15th 2009, 07:55 PM
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Originally Posted by GroovyDoodle
Guys: Say you're dating a girl you're in love with and you tell her she's beautiful, but she's actually unattractive (in her opinion anyways). Are you doing this because you feel the need to raise her self-esteem? Or do you really think she's attractive? Or is this a white lie to save your ass?
Personally I think it's a HUGE turn off if a girl constantly puts herself down, or fishes for compliments. If I tell a girl that she's gorgeous or beautiful, it means that she is, period. It bugs the hell out of me when a girl who is obviously better than average looking, puts herself down. Not that I don't mind telling girls that they are pretty, it just gets old if I have to continuously ring a bell over and over.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 18th 2009, 05:59 AM
Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?
Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 19th 2009, 02:22 AM
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Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear
Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?
Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.
Honestly for me, I almost never do it. I love looking into the eyes when Im talking to a girl because the eyes are way more important and way more of a turn on to me than breasts.
I prefer the "inside" rather than the out.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 19th 2009, 10:30 PM
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Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear
Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?
Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.
Once guys learn, they look at the boobs before they are close enough for you to notice and it gets weird.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 21st 2009, 09:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear
Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?
Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.
I never look at their chest when I'm having a conversation with a girl. I look in their eyes. It's about respect.
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 21st 2009, 09:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear
Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?
Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.
I like eye contact, so never. But boobs get their own admiration time
Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 24th 2009, 12:12 AM
How would you guys react if a girl asked you to a school dance?
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Re: Questions for the opposite sex - Volume I -
April 25th 2009, 10:36 PM
Would you slow dance with someone who you go to the dance with as a friend?
"Others say there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I just say Crud, there isn't... I'm stuck in this stupid revolving door..." -Me
PM me anytime you want to talk about anything.And I mean ANYTHING AT ALL!
Formerly achava_elah_18
Been in love since May 2008
Fellow SI,Autism-Spectrum,Depression,Anxiety,Musical,Trichotilloman ia Person. Basically, I'm ME!