Sorry for a very late reply; It wasn't exactly like a sudden change overnight, but as time went by and things were seeming to get worse, I decided to make things better for myself. - Being mentally/emotionally/physically scarred, yes hurts in itself, but I thought letting myself dwell on it and make my unstable life worse.
The cutting was a gradual thing, I slowed things down, did other things with my time.
The drinking, that was the sort of thing that I helped myself with easily, I started saving up for things that I wanted, instead of alcohol. - But I know it can be hard when temptation to drown things out is there. You just have to keep yourself busy and maybe find something you'd like more?
The shame; now that will never go away, not for me anyway. Although, I'm sure you have no reason to feel ashamed of anything that's happened, it is not your fault! Not in the slightest, no matter what happened before.. you have no reason to feel ashamed!

I am here to message if you ever need me, had a busy few weeks so not really been online. But I'll be on more often from now on.

Never Give Up!

If you need anything ever PM me. ♥♥♥

Reading about how you changed your mindset like that is a huge inspiration, I'm curious as to ask how you did it though. I'm going through the same issues it seems, the drinking, the cutting, the shame. Did You just have an epiphany or sudden realization of self worth? I would really like to know..