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Yeah, I know. Sex is important to me too.
The only reason sometimes you're frowned upon, is how you tell the story, and you don't let other people see you as a nice, caring, sweet guy. :]
Everyone can say that sex isn't important, and is not needed, but seriously, it is. You need that connection with the person you're with. I'm not saying fuck 20 times a day, but having a healthy sexual pattern is a good thing. Then when you lose it, you often wonder why and how you can get it back.
The main thing is, you can't make the relationship all about sex. Yes, sex can be included, and should be included, but not based upon it. Sometimes you come off as you only wanting sex, but I know that's not the case, with everything you just told me.
Also, I'm not sure if your name is meant in the way of being smitten with someone, but if so, it's sweet. =)

You're pretty much looking for me, no joke. =P
You'll find her, don't worry. Just give it some time.
Most often we find someone, when we're not even looking. :]

I've been in the same situation as you, but only with guys hitting the 6 month mark. It's too funny that you said that because JUST last night I was talking to a guy friend about this and how it pisses me off guys just stop giving a fuck, and you see their true colors. I mean where does all the sweetness and romance disappear to? You honestly remind me a lot of myself in some aspects. I was completely discouraged with guys and just gave up on them, but then I knew I had to change the way I thought if I ever wanted to find love again.

Why not just be careful? Give yourself some time to be single, and get over anything you're dealing with associating with girls. You also may find out a lot about yourself as well. Just don't wanna see you getting hurt again, or frown off love. :]

I know, girls can be shitty most of the time, but if you hang in there, you'll find somebody. :]
I don't see why not. I'm sure you have a lot to offer a girl, you just need to get out of the mindset that they're all horrible, ya know?
And you're right, smoking is disgusting. Ugh.

Just to let you know, I'm a woman, and I'm not self centered, selfish OR superficial. And I'm originally from the US, so I do wish you find someone like me.

yeah... she just isent into the physical part of the relationship because we really have nowhere convenient or romantic to do any of it. her house is a piece of crap and is tiny and she and her mom live with another single mom and her son. so someone is always home and even if they arent the ambiance to be "in the mood" just isent there... and my house, both my parents work from home and my grandmother lives with us so someone is ALWAYS home... so we are stuck with the basement and it is not romantic at all down there... she claims if we had a bed available to us and more privacy than she would be more inclined to have sex, but there is just no way of that happening...

My pity lies with you, man, that sucks... I'm sorry. I think that's a little unfair of her to do, to just cut you off completely like that. We still do everything except for sex, for whatever reason, which I suppose takes a little of the suckishness away from it. Though nothing is the samee, in my opinion. Have you tried having a heart-to-heart with her about this?

True... I think that might be the only hope I feel like I need a way to distract myself from it... Does your girlfriend allow for everything else BUT sex?

That does make me feel better... The libido I think is a big issue but I also think mine emay have to do with the actual relationship, as well. I think it's my fault really, I guess for being too into the physical aspect and distancing myself from the emotional aspect... sigh, I feel like I need it let known that even though this happened that I still feel the same way... hopefully all will get better in time and our partners will realise that its not all that bad having sex!!

Yeah... I mean if we're going to be put in this situation, at least we can help eachother through, haha. I've been thinking on it all day... and I guess maybe just because it's only been a little bit since we stopped and it's still new knowing that the option isn't even there that it's really bothersome... hopefully it'll be easier as time goes by. But I still know that I won't leave my sweet because of this. I believe I'm a stronger person than that and for the first time, I am actually in love. But yeah this still stinks.