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Unhappy My mom thinks I donít care about her - September 6th 2020, 01:25 AM

[SIZE="a"]Iím about to write something very long, sorry about that. I just need to pour it out somewhere, even if itís to a stranger.
So, a few months ago, I found out that my mom has a bad disease in her uterus, and i was devastated. Currently, sheís been going to a lot of appointments and itís getting worse. She is getting a surgery for it next week. Because of this, my aunt offered for me to live with her family for two to three months. When my mom first heard this, she said no, and her reason was that she didnít think it was necessary. I am almost 13, and an only child, so I agreed with her at first. I didnít think a lot about it. But, I was asked again, and I said no, but after that, I began to actually consider it. That same afternoon, I got a call from my cousin, who is my auntís daughter. We began to list out the pros and cons of me staying and going over. Also, my auntís family lives across the country. I was think constantly whether I should go or stay. I knew I couldnít just leave my mom, but it would be a lot of work for my dad to take care of me, my mom, and my dog. But because school is online, it would be easier, and something like this might never happen again. Donít get me wrong, I really care about my parents, I just think it would be an interesting experience for me to go. I also donít think that I am mentally prepared for my moms surgery. It just popped out of nowhere and I think it would be a lot for me to go through. Also, I would have to take on a lot more responsibility too. My brain knew that I should stay, but somehow, my heart was just saying that I should go, with no particular reason. A few days passed, and my parents asked me if I decided yet. I was pretty sure that I wanted to go by then. My parents were both strongly on the stay side the whole time since the beginning. So tonight, we sat down to talk, but I just couldnít bring myself to say that I wanted to go. So like 10 minutes passed and I said that I think I wanted to go. Then immediately, my mom started to shout at me and say that I never actually loved her and that I donít care about her. Then my dad said that he wouldnít let me leave no matter what, even though at first we all decided together that i could choose. After a few minutes of my parents both shouting at me saying they didnít care about me, my mom said that if I can leave but if I did she wouldnít let me come back. I was shocked. I didnít know if she said that out of anger or or if she actually meant it. She continued to say things like, ďif you leave, donít call me your mom anymore, your aunt will be your new momĒ, ďplan on living at your auntís house foreverĒ, ďdo I mean nothing to youĒ, ďI failed at raising youĒ and ďyou are a disappointmentĒ. I didnít know what to do or say at that point, I was just frozen in place. I found myself and then went up to my room and cried. Now I donít know if I sounded like I donít care about my parents, or if they overreacted, or if I was just completely wrong in the whole thing. Iím just looking for advice here, and please be honest. Again, sorry for making you read something so long. Also, can you express your opinion on whether I should go or stay? Thanks![/size]
   
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Re: My mom thinks I donít care about her - September 16th 2020, 11:49 AM

I think your parents are just worried about your mom's illness. Perhaps everything is very serious there, you still do not perceive strongly the seriousness of your mother's disease. If you donít want to leave and your parents donít want to let you go, stay at home and help them.
   
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Re: My mom thinks I donít care about her - September 23rd 2020, 06:35 AM

We never know the love of a parent until we become parents ourselves.
   
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Re: My mom thinks I donít care about her - September 23rd 2020, 08:21 AM

Darling, I understand you, you are worried about mom, and mom thinks you don't give a damn about her. In fact, it seems to me that mom is now very hard, so she told you all those words that offended you. Your mom needs your support now more than ever. you don't have to leave, but if you stay, prepare to be support for your mom and support for your family. Be strong, I wish you success.
   
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