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Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 23rd 2012, 07:23 PM
just wondering cuz ive never tried it but i see it on p0rn ALL THA TIME and i wanna try it...
it's kinda awkward asking my gf if i could lick her anus, so if i'm gonna do it i just wanna do it without askin but just wanted some of ur opinions, esp chicks opinions to see if it's gross or not haha
is it normal to lick a girls anus or do they just do it in p0rn?
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 23rd 2012, 07:43 PM
Of course it's normal. Shit...when I was a kid, I had gay experiences and licked one of my friend's asses. I told my girlfriend about those gay experiences and she makes fun of me all the time saying "when we have kids, I'm gonna tell them about their dad licking ass" and stuff like that. She knows that I want to try anal, but I'm not sure if she knows that I wanna lick her ass as well. Buuuuuuuuut...that won't happen, at least for a loooooooooong time.
Anyways, there's no harm in asking...but don't ask it while she's turned on. It's more of a conversation thing to figure out what she wants to do and doesn't want to do. Don't lick her ass while you're having sex cause...there's potential you could get kicked in the face or your penis bit off. I'd say she's more likely to give it a try if you're upfront with her before anything happens than surprising her during sex. Some women like those kind of surprises, but others DO NOT LIKE IT AT ALL. It's too risky. Unless you know for sure that the things she enjoys can potentially indicate she's into having her ass licked, then I wouldn't take any chances. For instance...if she's into rough sex and being dominated, then there's potential she's willing to give it a try on the spot.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 23rd 2012, 08:09 PM
Totally normal. Everyone has different things that they're into. If you ask your girlfriend & she says no, don't take it offensively. That doesn't make it wrong or bad, it just means she's not into that type of thing. It doesn't hurt to ask
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 23rd 2012, 08:49 PM
Yes, it's perfectly normal! The anus has a lot of nerve endings, and this might really feel nice for her, not just pleasurable for you. But you should get her consent first, and if she says yes, use a dental dam to avoid spreading any STIs.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 24th 2012, 01:34 AM
Uhm, I guess it is probably normal, I mean, I am SUPER uncomfortable with having my butt touched in any way, I don't even know why, so I think I am biased here cause that would probably freak me out on a personal level. But if it is something you wanna try, then I am not going to be the one to discourage you just cause I have a weird thing about it haha.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 24th 2012, 01:46 AM
It's normal to want to try different things sexually, of course! But, here's the thing. . . You said you were going to just do that, as in, without asking her. This is bad. You have no idea if she'll like it or not, and just doing it could very well make her feel violated. You really need to get permission from her first.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 24th 2012, 06:07 PM
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Originally Posted by IMaCrunk
" . . . is it normal to lick a girls anus or do they just do it in p0rn?"
I don't know if you'd call it that "normal" since most guys don't do that, however there seems to be a large group of guys that are very attracted to the female butt and anus. If you think of something sexual, some others are no doubt thinking the same thing. A bunch of porn caters to that interest. Many gals can't figure it out why, but the guys with this interest have more desire for the butt than any other female body part. I know, because I have this interest myself. You could sneak up on it by saying you'd like to give her a back massage and then move on from there to just massaging her butt, and then licking it while you massage it. If this turns you on like it would me, hopefully she could then give you a handjob or blowjob.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 24th 2012, 10:34 PM
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Originally Posted by Strummer
You could sneak up on it by saying you'd like to give her a back massage and then move on from there to just massaging her butt, and then licking it while you massage it. If this turns you on like it would me, hopefully she could then give you a handjob or blowjob.
Once again, I'd recommend permission, as somewhat romantic/sexy this sounds. As much as I like back massages, and even the butt to be incorporated into the massaging, that's a large jump to the next level. Get her consent first.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 24th 2012, 10:34 PM
First off, DEFINITELY ask first. You don't know if it's something she's comfortable with, and if not it could easily go downhill. So please, ask her first.
As to whether or not people think it's gross, to each their own. Some people like that stuff, some don't. For example, I used to date a guy who loved anal stuff, and my current boyfriend despises it (thank god!), so we don't do any kind of anal stimulation because it's not what we're into. Does that mean it's gross or abnormal? No; it's just a personal preference.
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Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 25th 2012, 08:43 AM
Everybody has their own sexual desires. Some people are into what you are describing, and some are not. Many people find pleasure from any kind of anal stimulation, and so no, it's not normal to want to explore this as a possibility. I would for sure ask her first, though. Your girlfriend likely has boundaries, and you want to be aware of those boundaries so you don't make her feel uncomfortable.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 25th 2012, 11:04 AM
Yes, it's normal and I'm sure there is a ton of people out there that want to and have done it.
I would ask before you do it though, talk to your girlfriend about it and make sure she's okay with it before you do it. If you don't, you could upset her and make her uncomfortable if it's not something she'd be okay with doing.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 26th 2012, 01:52 AM
The danger with doing it in the moment is that she could really not want you to do that, and then get upset. It's a gamble. From a woman's perspective, I would ALWAYS appreciate a partner asking me before trying anything new. I believe in constant communication and respect. I believe that communicating and asking permission = respect.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 26th 2012, 05:20 PM
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Originally Posted by Audacious
The danger with doing it in the moment is that she could really not want you to do that, and then get upset. It's a gamble. From a woman's perspective, I would ALWAYS appreciate a partner asking me before trying anything new. I believe in constant communication and respect. I believe that communicating and asking permission = respect.
how about asking in the moment? I reckon asking before is so clinical and if isn't sure is more likely to say no?
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 27th 2012, 01:32 AM
You can ask in the moment, but I still think it would be best to talk about it before hand, then it gives her time to really think it over instead of just haphazardly answering and then being sort of shocked if it didn't register, I know that, for me at least, in the moment sometimes I won't really think about what the other person is saying, and that would be quite a shock if she didn't really process it. If she says no, then she says no, in that case, you really shouldn't do it, but maybe you could explain that you are just curious. But if she says and it's not in the heat of the moment, then you know that she really wouldn't mind and you won't get kicked in the face or a more sensitive area due to shock during sex.
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Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
June 27th 2012, 04:17 AM
Nope, it's not gross at all. It's called rimming and many people find it enjoyable to give and receive.
However, a lot of people also do not like it, or else have never tried it and aren't certain. You will definitely want to ask your girlfriend if she wants to participate in this activity beforehand. I actually suggest bringing it up in a conversation, outside the bedroom, about sexual fantasies. "Hey, you know what's something I would really love to try with you? (Insert activity you want to try in here)." That way there isn't a ton of pressure that would distract her from what it is you are doing.
If you are more comfortable asking in the heat of the moment you can, just be sure it's at a good time, i.e. a time when she won't feel a lot caught too off guard or feel too much pressure to say yes or no.
Re: Is it gross to wanna lick my gf's anus??? -
July 9th 2012, 02:22 PM
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Originally Posted by IMaCrunk
just wondering cuz ive never tried it but i see it on p0rn ALL THA TIME and i wanna try it...
it's kinda awkward asking my gf if i could lick her anus, so if i'm gonna do it i just wanna do it without askin but just wanted some of ur opinions, esp chicks opinions to see if it's gross or not haha
is it normal to lick a girls anus or do they just do it in p0rn?
This isn't abnormal. It's one of the most common fetishes. I for one adore having my [BLEEP] licked... just be sure it's clean!