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June 21st 2010, 05:03 PM
I was sexually abused for months. This guy I was with was very abusive and he forced me to have sex with him. He also, refused to wear a condom. So I got pregnant...
I unfortunately had a miscarriage at 3 months along. (December 2009). He broke down and continued forcing me to have sex because he wanted a baby so badly. Sex occured almost everyday, unprotected, for 2 1/2 months after that.
I got my period, well what I thought was my period, in April 2010. It was only a few days, when it is usually much longer, and it was not heavy and no cramping was involved.
I missed my period May, and June.. no sign of a period.
A few days ago, I realized I haven't had my period and I've been getting sick and feeling nauseous. I'm always tired... and my boobs have been getting bigger. I've also gained about 7 pounds. I'm not sure what to think because I thought I had my period in April.
I got rid of the guy, so he can never know about this. But I need help. Do you think there is a possibility of me being indeed pregnant again? Or do you think it's just a delayed period?
-Bee
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June 21st 2010, 05:23 PM
It sounds like you're pregnant, especially since you've missed your last two periods. Get a test and go to the doctor; you're exhibiting all the signs.
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June 21st 2010, 05:26 PM
I'm going to take a test today... :/
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June 21st 2010, 07:38 PM
The light bleeding you had in april could have been implantation bleeding. Take a test, or schedule a doctors appointment. If you take a home test you should still schedule a doctors appointment even if that test comes out negative.
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June 21st 2010, 07:43 PM
Im glad you got rid of that guy, you deserve better.
And yes, it sounds like you could be pregnant. If you are, you have me and tuns of people on here to talk to. I had a miscarriage last year so I understand how hard that is, even though I wasnt in the same position as you. Im always here if you need to talk.
Wishing you the best.
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June 21st 2010, 08:00 PM
To be quite blunt and brutally honest.
That miscarriage was probably a blessing in disguise. Seriously anyone that sexually abused you and forced you into something, you cannot have a child with that person.
Secondly I hope if you are pregnant, you terminate it. Because you are far too young to have a child and you are in no position to raise a child at your age and state of mind.
Abortion exists for a reason, seriously it is your best option.
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June 21st 2010, 09:47 PM
or adoption... you don't have to abort if you can't keep the baby. Keep that in mind. I'm sorry you were abused. I hope everything turns out okay for you.
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June 21st 2010, 11:48 PM
Okay. For one. I would never abort any baby of mine. Even if it was with an abusive guy. And two, you don't know who I am so you can't tell me I'm not in the right state of mind, and age doesn't matter. And any miscarriage is not a "blessing in disguise". So... yeah, think again before you throw things at me.
And thank you all for your kind words and hoping that I'm okay. I took the test today and it came out negative. I'm going to the doctor though to make sure everything is okay.
Bri. I wanna know how it feels to be happy.
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June 21st 2010, 11:52 PM
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Okay. For one. I would never abort any baby of mine. Even if it was with an abusive guy. And two, you don't know who I am so you can't tell me I'm not in the right state of mind, and age doesn't matter. And any miscarriage is not a "blessing in disguise". So... yeah, think again before you throw things at me.
And thank you all for your kind words and hoping that I'm okay. I took the test today and it came out negative. I'm going to the doctor though to make sure everything is okay.
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I'm sorry if that sounded mean. I am 100% against abortion and the miscarriage was really hard on me, but I've picked myself up from it.
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June 22nd 2010, 02:20 AM
I understand that, i feel the same about it. I had a phantom pregnancy... that's not as bad as an actual miscarrage, but I know how bad it hurts. It's probably good that you arent pregnant though, cuz things would be tough. Stay safe and keep us updated about wheather or not ur okay. I'll be prayin for you.
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June 22nd 2010, 03:33 AM
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Originally Posted by haveXhope
Okay. For one. I would never abort any baby of mine. Even if it was with an abusive guy. And two, you don't know who I am so you can't tell me I'm not in the right state of mind, and age doesn't matter. And any miscarriage is not a "blessing in disguise". So... yeah, think again before you throw things at me.
And thank you all for your kind words and hoping that I'm okay. I took the test today and it came out negative. I'm going to the doctor though to make sure everything is okay.
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Bee,
You have so many options available to you if you are pregnant; you are not limited to abortion, adoption, or keeping the child. What you do is your choice, your parents can have input; but aside from your parents I would personally not allow anyone else's opinion to affect my decision. Because this is with an abusive boy I personally believe he has given up his rights to have a say. Just like with a rapist, they should not have a say in what the mother does.
I am very happy for you because your test came out negative, but like others have said before me; you should still see your doctor for a more accurate pregnancy test.
I agree with you, no miscarriage is a blessing; it has emotional consequences on you as the young woman who experienced this. Whether or not you wanted a child, it still does effect you emotionally.
Here are some other things to think about and consider, talk about them with your doctor and if your comfortable, your mom. Birth control could always be an option, I know you said you left this boy, but for anytime in the future it could prevent or minimize the chances of this happening to you again. If it does happen again in the future, there is always the Plan B pill that you can get at your local pharmacy. Despite common beliefs, it is NOT an abortion pill - it simply prevents sperm from fertilizing the egg. I believe it does a bit more than that, but I know it immobolizes the sperm. It is not abortion, which I see from your comments that you are opposed to that personally.
I hope this helps, and I pray that all goes well at the doctors. Take care 
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Re: Pregnant....Again? -
June 22nd 2010, 11:36 AM
hey there honey,
first of all, let me just say, i am so so sorry that you went through that. he had no right to do that to you. secondly, the only thing you can really do, is go to a doctor or health clinic and get tested. im so proud of you for leaving him aswell. that was brave and definatly a good decision. hope everything goes well, let us know.
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Re: Pregnant....Again? -
June 22nd 2010, 03:51 PM
Thank you. I'm so happy I finally escaped him.
I'm going to the doctor next week to figure out whats going on.
Because I know sometimes home pregnancy tests are wrong.
And there was a broken line so I'm not sure...
I'm praying for everything to be okay. Thank you all for your prayers. I appreciate it.
Also, I am abstinent. I never wanted to have sex. But just in case I am indeed going on birth control to make sure. Because I never expected to get raped again.
I hope everything works out.
With all of you too, PM me anytime you need to
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Re: Pregnant....Again? -
June 22nd 2010, 03:54 PM
Good choice with the birth control =) It'll be good to go to the doctor even if you're not pregnant; you should definitely get checked for infections, etc. Good luck.
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let me tell you why, i would die for you
When you whisper, you must be absolutely as sincere as when you scream. 9 out of every 10 problems in relationships can be solved by talking. So why are we so damn quiet?
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