Dating older men :)

[prettygale17]

So I've been talking to a guy and he is really nice and sweet and we flirt with each other a lot and we really like each other the thing is i'm 16 and he's 22 we would be a long distance relationship he lives 3 hours away from me but doesnt have a car so he cant drive up to me but is is wrong that im in involved with a 22 year old and be honest i dont know whats your input on this relationship is it okay to stay with him or is is just wrong

[leavemealone]

6 years is a big difference, but that's just my opinion. Some girls like to date older men just because they're more mature and experienced than someone who is younger, and I don't see anything wrong with that, but when it comes to being underage I would put my foot down. You're only 16 and he is 22, and judging by your description of your relationship so far it is safe to assume that you've never met him before. Personally, I would say that it's not a good idea to date him. He may be super nice and he may seem to be a perfect fit for you, but unless your family is okay with you dating an older man, unless you meet him personally (with someone with you!), and unless he actually turns out to be a sweet person, I wouldn't get mixed in with a complete stranger who you don't really know.

[prettygale17]

we Skype and talk on the phone he actually plan on renting a car to come out to see me and with my parents i guess your right about that my parents would really approve of such a relationship like that but i have deeep feelings for him and he tells me the same he says he loves me and that he would want to marry me and be with me forever how can i turn away from that???

[Temperance]

All I have to say is be careful, and make sure you know what kind of situation you're getting yourself into. I my self am dating a man that is 9 years my senior (I'm 23 and he just turned 32) so for ne to say anything against such an age gap would be hypocrisy.

[Apple Orchard Ghost]

Have you guys been talking for a long time? Because when someone says they love you and want to be with you forever after only talking to you for a little bit, it usually throws up red flags, regardless of age difference. I'm saying this because those people have a tendency to latch on extremely quickly and then get extremely dependent, and it doesn't always turn out well.

[MermaidMassacre]

Just be careful and be safe. Age is just a number but when you are under 18 it isn't always the best idea and you just have to be smarter about it. I was 16 dating a 21 year old in England, but we never met so it wasn't a big deal. But now that I am 20 I am dating a 25 year old and the age difference isn't a big deal. But it's because I am an adult so it's more accepted. People worry more when you are still a teenager going for an adult guy. But there really isn't anything wrong liking older guys. Females are mentally 2 years more mature than males, so mentally we are kinda drawn to the maturity of older men. At least that's my thoughts on it.

Personally, I find it inappropriate for a twenty-two year old to be with a sixteen year old. When you're sixteen six years is a big age difference, never mind the legal implications that would come with any sort of sexual contact. You're still in high school, whereas he's (hopefully) an adult with adult responsibilities. To me, it's strange that an adult would want to be with someone who still has at least a year left in high school and is a minor to boot. I cannot in good conscience tell you to go for it, but if you decide to, be very careful, physically and emotionally.

[Always *]

Personally it's weird for me. To the point of it being creepy. I am turning 22 this year and I can't imagine dating someone who's only 16. Maybe I am biased due to the fact that I work with minors, most of the kids are under 12 years old BUT some of them are up to 18 years of age, so I look at it as being highly inappropriate from that point of view. Not to mention that you guys SHOULD be in 2 different stages of life. You're still a kid (teenager if calling you a kid is offensive). He's an adult. I kind of have to wonder what his interest is? Is he just immature or whats the deal? I'm not trying to dis him OR you. I'm just attempting to outline some of the reasons why I personally would question it.

Now I have seen plenty of people who end up with an age gap in their relationship and it's fine. Hell, my friend got married at 19 to a guy who was 26 (they dated for about a year beforehand). And if you were 18, I don't think I'd question this quite as much. But even though I've been trained to find it highly inappropriate from a professional point of view as well as a legal (statutory rape laws for example) I would still be highly wary and ask why he is interested in someone who is *supposed* to be in a different stage of life. Maybe it's nothing, maybe it's fine, I would personally have concerns.

[geek27]

You don't know real answer until you try, so go ahead, just be careful

[Koharuchan]

I was in a very similar situation as you when I was 16, and it did not go well. The relationship was completely secret, we never got to see each other, and he wasn't the guy I thought he was in the end. So I'm warning you right now, really think about this. You are still a minor, and you need to think about all the repercussions of having a relationship with this man. I would personally advise against it.